A thank-you to you all

[2000lightyearsaway123]

Hi all,

I hope this is ok to post but I just wanted to say thank you to you amazing lot for providing me with a space where I feel less alone, afraid and sometimes like I'm just not going crazy.

I've been lurking around here for 5 years since my early 20s. I started as a "let people live their lives, they are doing no harm" person, never quite a TRA but quickly my eyes were opened. It's a lonely place being GC at my age because most of my contemporaries and friends range from how I previously felt to full on scary TRA's. I haven't had the bravery to make my feelings known yet as I fear the abuse but also for my job. However I am lucky that I am in a company that atleast organisationally has not been taken over and I don't know the opinions of the individuals.

I don't often post because many of the women here put what I think and feel in writing much more eloquently than I ever could. Thank you for giving me hope that this can change and things can get better for women. I hope some day soon I can find the courage within myself to stand shoulder to shoulder with you publicly.

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Lovely post OP. I've noticed numerous people of your age in my children's friendship groups coming out on the other side. What's happened to lesbians has peaked so many women - just as the self absorbed / pronoun changing /attention seeking behaviour of many children in schools is also peaking those of school age.

This will change - the impact of the Cass Review revealing the harm being done to children (and the world wide realisation of what's been allowed to happen) will roll this back - but it's going to take years.

I'm hearing quite a lot about late teen and university age children /young adults starting to get thoroughly sick of the narcissistic, authoritarian nature of many who latch onto the trans rights movement. This leads to questioning, and then questioning why they are not allowed to question! This generation will soon be your colleagues.

My kids are much younger but like many posters here I'm doing a lot to equip them to safely navigate this issue. Op, your generation is probably going to be the toughest one to be part of because the adults in your lives when you were younger just didn't realise. Hang on in there.

👋Hey, OP, good to have you here!

Thank you OP.

I am sad that you cannot feel that you have these conversations in real life.

I hope that changes for you soon. This board is brilliant for being able to articulate just what the issues are. And I will join you if I may in adding my thanks to the regular posters here.

Even the ones who constantly challenge with nonsense which means that threads become even more informative with the links posted to refute. Thank you to them too .

Thanks everyone. I have noticed increasingly some friends growing quiet on the issue which makes me wonder if they are starting to question things. Maybe they are like me and afraid to bring it up.

The Cass review certainly brought hope as well as the Maya Forstater case. I think there are certain things if I was asked to do e.g declare pronouns at work (or at all) would be a red line for me and I would speak up. I even practice what I would say sometimes using different points you all have made.

Also heartened to hear about young people in your lives growing sick of it all. I look forward to then joining the work force!

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Welcome OP ❤️

Welcome to this little oasis of sanity, OP! It’s growing every day.

My friend’s 24yo daughter has peaked in the last 18 months and is fuming, but is afraid to discuss it with friends so keeps silent on this issue in her peer group. You won’t be the only one.

My daughters are like you. At Uni, my Dd tentatively raised an issue and everyone around agreed and was relieved to feel they could talk more openly.

Hi OP. I know quite a few young people who are not in thrall to all the nonsense, but like you are scared to speak up. I wonder if you can find a way to sound out some 'safe' people to talk to. I find JK Rowling to be a good topic but I'm in an older age group. I know students of mine will immediately go off if I so much as say JKR's name! But maybe you could try saying something like, "I don't really understand why everyone hates JKR these days," and if your friend is thinking along the same lines, it will be easy enough to get into a deeper conversation. And if not, you'll quickly know because she'll 'educate' you on JK's awful bigotry!

I don't envy being your age and having to deal with all this shit. But I know you're not alone.

I went to FiLiA 2022 in October and loved the fact that there were so many young women there. ✊

I'm a massive harry potter fan, always was even before all this and an even bigger JK Rowling fan so that may give some of my friends an inkling but as you say maybe they just think I need educating lol. I'm going to send her a Christmas card to say thank you to her too. I'm sure she'll not see it but hopefully knowing people care matters because it can't be easy to be in her position even knowing she is fighting the good fight!

I'd seen alot about Filia. I would love to attend some time.