Turning this stuff off my social media.....

[Strictlyfanoftenyears]

Thats it really, today I have gone through my twitter and un followed loads of accounts like Maya etc. Purely because its messing with my mental health. I cant believe that the world is taking part in this nonsense of people changing their sex. Its truly dreadful and I cant carry on reading this stuff. Anyone else feeling the same? Whats the world coming to when our children are being let down so badly? Led to believe that an operation and binders will cure all!

Yeah op I feel the same its hard to avoid this stuff and I'm absolutely baffled that the behaviour from the so called Be Kind squad is never called out when most things I see from 'our side' ie reality are not cruel, just stating facts. Its got to the point that even at my workplace I can't express how I feel about issues because I'll just be labelled a tp when truly I feel for people who have real dysmorphia but don't wanna support children altering their bodies so drastically and dangerously over 'feelings'. Nor do I wanna give up single sex womens spaces. Its hard enough as a woman walking through town being intimidated daily by gangs and blokes hanging around I don't feel safe. No man will ever understand that (not that men can't be harassed but being a woman is a unique sometimes horrible experience) The world has gone mad. Your mental health must always come first so I definitely would block/avoid social media accounts

To bring some optimism, I've recently found a few women in real life who share my concerns and we're starting to organise to tackle some of the things that have slipped in without challenge over the last few years. It's early days but just knowing there are others who feel the same way and who are prepared to speak up is a great encouragement.

If you need to take a break, go ahead and take one. It's an exhausting situation. But, as I think a FWR poster said, this marathon is a relay race, not a solo one. As long as there's always someone to pick up the baton and keep going - which there always will be - take a break and come back when you're ready.

What Jelly said. And Truth too.

FWIW I believe all forms of social media are increasingly bad for our mental health, regardless of which Twitterspheres we end up in.

The algorithms are messing us all up, and the big tech bosses know it.

I’ve just ordered a Light Phone, potentially for my daughter’s first phone (she’s transferring to secondary school next year and I want to protect her mental health and self esteem from the algorithmic onslaughts that seem to be particularly unhealthy for teen girls)

www.thelightphone.com

theorion.com/89932/opinion/social-media-algorithm-designed-to-be-toxic/

I love that it's a relay race!

Op I feel the same - I had to block twitter from my phone so I don't look at it at all at the weekends, I just found it too stressful.

Take a break when you need to.

I came away from all social media platforms years ago apart from here. One day I just thought I needed a break from Twitter, Instagram, Facebook etc. I haven't looked back. I know it is not for everyone as you need it for businesses, good to keep intouch with friends, etc but for me it was a game changer.

Yes completely agree. Have also left Twitter. It's so depressing.

Looks good!

Yes OP I get it, I deleted Twitter and all other social media. Can’t delete Mumsnet though!

I totally get it, and it 100% is a relay. I think everyone gets a bit overwhelmed by it at times. Take a break for your mental health x (sorry that x is not very mumsnetty but it sounds like you need it)

Totally agree about limiting all types of social media.
Work out how you can interact and not become too absorbed.
When you do, please let me know! Electronic devises constantly stimulate our brains and we need to switch off. Am going back to paper books for this reason

Thank you all. I mean I follow all the court stuff on here and twitter, but shall just catch up on here in future with the wonderful mumsnetters that relay it all back to us. Im beginning to wonder whether Twitter will actually be held to account in the future for all the awful stuff thats put on there. Sad really coz I love all the memes and jokes that people put on there and the commentary etc 😳

I only use Twitter for fun stuff

I have been battling some lf this stuff for years, it's got worse, not better. If you need to step away, then do.

I feel the same. It's so awful. Why are we being gaslit? Why is it 'transphobic' to correctly sex a male? God I hate this so much.

Young males on reddit are "experiencing periods"...

I'm off that for a few days.

Hoping the pause will lead me back to more cats and idiot drivers than anything else.

You don't necessarily need to unfollow people on twitter. Another option is to create a set of private lists for yourself such as "family", "close friends", "news outlets", "feminists" etc, and when it's all getting too much, just stick to reading the family and friends ones. That way you can still keep up with people you know in real life without getting bombarded with all the other stuff that's stressing you out. It can also help to turn off seeing retweets from certain people as well.

Do what works for you, it's not obligatory to be on FB or Twitter or follow the news. And certainly nothing in the world changes for the better or worse depending on whether I do so! (YMMV).

OP I feel it.

I saw the ulta stuff today and remember the ‘always like a girl’ award winning advertising from 2014. We are going backwards!!!!! We should be fighting these stupid female girl stereotypes but instead ulta - a massive beauty retailer in the USA - is putting up two men talking about how it is to be a girl. One of whom spent 200 days reinforcing stupid fucking girl stereotypes on his tik tok platform.

I cried.

I don’t share stuff on my social media but have set up a WA group of women I hope I can trust - to share my frustration and articles and try and educate in the whole shitshow and join the dots. Then I saw Lorraine tweeting - ‘you go girl’ - to Eddie Izzard who is standing as a female MP for Sheffield against an ‘old fashioned’ woman whose father worked in the steel industry and had spent years as a councilor and I just sighed.

depressingly I put stuff up on this wa group and people are scared to comment. They are starting to like articles now. But it’s a lonely game and makes me rage.

with you. It’s a relay x

I hear you, op. This is why I've never really bothered with twitter.

What alarms me the most is how this ideology and its rapid spread through institution and society, without the consent of the general public, is fundamentally eroding the foundations of civic society and government. It's eating away at the social contract.

Very few people in positions of power seem to be able to see this. Virtually no-one talks about it. But it is there, it is very dangerous, and I can see it happening before my eyes.

It essentially boils down to this: why should any middle-aged female pay tax to fund a police service and justice system that actively campaigns against their interests? That would allow a male to strip search the females in their family for "reasons", that would incarcerate family and friend females with males, that would penalise them in court for referring to a male as a male?

Those are the actions of a police force in a repressive state, not a democratic one.

The same applies to the education system. Why should any of us pay tax to fund educational institutions that feed our children ideological garbage and reinforce those messages to the detriment of our children's mental health and understanding of society?

In short, why the hell are we paying for this? None of it is in our interests and it actively causes direct and personal harm.

And middle-aged people are pretty much the backbone of society. You lose them, and the whole thing just crumbles.

Indeed, if you wanted to destroy public faith in taxpayer-funded institutions, infecting them with a stupid ideology and rigorously enforcing it would be the perfect way to do it. And that is what is happening here right now.

I no longer trust the police or the courts. I no longer trust that schools will teach sensible content. I no longer trust the NHS to protect my elderly grandma or my vulnerable daughter in hospital. I no longer trust my local council to ensure the safety of 50% of the local population.

So why the hell am I paying tax to fund it all?

And that, in a nutshell, is the problem. Because I'm a reasonable, moderate, socially Liberal person, and if I'm thinking it, then others like me are too.

Great post, @Torunette .

OP - meeting real women, in real life, who don't believe this nonsense is really really good. Join your local Women's Rights Network group, as most of us meet up regularly. So good to find out that we are not the only one railing against the lunacy!

And we are all really nice women too, so you will make some great new friends.

The ideology believes that an individual's personal reality and "authentic self" ("authentic" being used like "literal" is used in the "words are literal violence" claim) is more important than objective observable reality.

It is therefore extremely cruel to claim that actual observable reality is the relevant reality, because to do so you are doing something worse than any nasty jibe - you are literally denying their reality, which is to deny their existence, which is literal genocide.

I always have loved this gif. wish we could post it but here is a link to it.

www.libbyvanderploeg.com/lifteachotherup