omg I disagree with them both so much. But I particularly dislike Aella's apparent belief that keeping secrets from your life partner is fine actually. She's cool with the johns lying to their wives and the OnlyFans girls strategising on how to hide their past from male partners.
No, wait, Aella's belief that women being into BDSM is a function of evolution is probably the worst part. (Speaking as someone who used to be into BDSM, enough to go to parties etc before 50 Shades made it all mainstream, and isn't remotely aroused by that shit any more because I developed a healthy sexuality.)
nope... turns out the stupidest part of all was her belief that reducing the stigma on sex work would make prostitution a better job. I thought people got over that kind of utopian "feminist" thinking around 2010 or so. As Louise pointed out, sex buyers don't respect prostitutes. They remain strangely impervious to the theorising of naive internet feminists. Aella seems to have tapped into a niche of buyers who want an intelligent woman who'll flatter their egos, so she's not dealing with the vicious brute types.
The top comment is much more intelligent and to the point than anything either of these women has to say:
Aella wants to normalize and legalize sex buying, which inevitably leads to an increase in trafficking.eprints.lse.ac.uk/45198/1/Neumayer_Legalized_Prostitution_Increase_2012.pdf Why? Because there is never enough willing “supply” to meet demand. The gaps can be very profitably filled by girls who are too poor and unsupported to say “no”.