Blair White (an American trans woman youtuber) did an interview recently with a man who goes by the name of Shape Shifter. It is on her youtube channel and also a DM article today. He fully transitioned to being a woman (including bottom surgery) and has now detransitioned.
What he figured out about himself after he had transitioned is that he is a gay man who is very feminine and gender non conforming. He likes to wear women's clothes, have long hair and feel feminine. He says he thought that meant that he was a woman and all along his journey no one explored the role his sexuality might be playing in how he felt (he had grown up in a Muslim home that was homophobic and had never really accepted his sexual orientation at that time). Everyone affirmed and supported his transition without question. He is angry that the trans health care team he saw brainwashed him when he was vulnerable (has some mental health issues as well) and allowed their own biases to shape their view of him and advice to him.
Part of the interview is about his trauma at losing his penis (his neo vagina never worked) but the more interesting part to me is the struggle in recognizing and accepting people who express themselves in non gender traditional ways. I remember when I watched an early episode of the Jazz Jenning reality tv show that they talked about how they knew she was a girl from very young because she loved pink and glitter and rainbows and butterflies and everything girly. As someone who was a tomboy and is still not a feminine woman, it bothers me that the traditional views of genders are being even more reinforced by the trans movement. We really need to work at broadening the view that it is okay to be a feminine man or a masculine woman.