I have realised I have made too many assumptions about gender over the years. I had always assumed that Paul (name changed of course) in my company was a man simply on the basis of his appearance (well over 6 foot, well built, big beard, low voice that only someone with an Adam's apple and whose balls have dropped could have). Imagine my relief to find that I have not been misgendering him for over a decade because he has helpfully added his pronouns to his email auto signature - they are he/him/his. There is no company diktat to add pronouns on emails so clearly this is important to Paul or maybe he has been misgendered recently.
So, I thought I would ensure that Paul was not offended on a Teams meeting this afternoon and kicked off the meeting by asking everyone to note that Paul's pronouns are he/him/his and that given that he has stated these that everyone please be sensitive to ensuring that they use them. No one said anything so I think they all took it on board, no one misgendered Paul and I like to think that his move to include his pronouns at work has been embraced in my meeting. Maybe as a result others that attended the meeting will add theirs to their auto signatures too.
Feminism: Sex and gender discussions
I am embracing virtue signalling pronouns in emails
MsFogi · 21/07/2022 18:25
Ereshkigalangcleg · 26/07/2022 15:36
It's quite sweet really.
The mutual back patting for introducing "balance" (but not answering the difficult questions except with links to blogs) was too.
BernardBlacksWineIcelolly · 26/07/2022 10:34
Oh man, that Aoen article
3100 words on continental and analytic philosophy, all to try to avoid saying that a woman is an adult human female. What do you think is the author’s term for such a class of people if not ‘woman’?
and the conclusion being essentially ‘it doesn’t matter because everyone should try to help all marginalised people’
totally unrealistic, written by someone with no interest in achieving anything. The way you make stuff happen is by having tightly defined goals
Conflictedunicorn · 24/07/2022 07:34
Thay are a bit boring now. It’s almost like they are admitting they have no sane argument for their ideology. I have discovered TRA kryptonite though. It’s questions. Any questions pointing out flaws in their logic make them shrivel up and slink away.
TastefulRainbowUnicorn · 27/07/2022 01:19
But that he also wants to show to support to those who do want their pronouns to be known for whatever reason.
i don’t understand why everyone is so unappreciative of OP showing support to people who show support to those who do want their pronouns to be known for whatever reason.
Tryingtokeepgoing · 27/07/2022 00:34
Is that really what’s happened in this thread and my posts, or is that what you want to believe? It really quite easy to explain, to those who have an open mind. Some people, transgender or otherwise, would rather be know by pronouns different to to those that other refer to them by, for whatever reason. It doesn’t matter to me what they want to be called, it’s their life and it it costs me nothing, and makes no difference to me. So it’s a small action that doesn’t impact me at all and makes someone else’s life better. Why would I not be happy with that?
It’s clear that the colleague originally mentioned, Paul, wants to show that he supports those who do feel that they’d like their pronouns to be known. I’m not sure why the OP thought it was appropriate to mock him for it during a meeting…. Well, I am…she did it because she thought it was a clever way of undermining him and mocking those who do want their pronouns to be known. Spectacularly missing the point that Paul almost certainly knows that everyone knows his pronouns. Paul is a well known name all over the world. But that he also wants to show to support to those who do want their pronouns to be known for whatever reason. Which comes back to my viewpoint that it makes no difference to me, or indeed Paul, but if we can do something with little effort, and zero cost or impact to make someone else’s life better why wouldn’t we?
Conflictedunicorn · 24/07/2022 07:34
Thay are a bit boring now. It’s almost like they are admitting they have no sane argument for their ideology. I have discovered TRA kryptonite though. It’s questions. Any questions pointing out flaws in their logic make them shrivel up and slink away.
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GoodJanetBadJanet · 27/07/2022 11:28
It doesn’t matter to me what they want to be called, it’s their life and it it costs me nothing, and makes no difference to me
Exactly, I think the same.
Makes no difference to me whether to use them or not, so I choose to use them.
GoodJanetBadJanet · 27/07/2022 11:28
It doesn’t matter to me what they want to be called, it’s their life and it it costs me nothing, and makes no difference to me
Exactly, I think the same.
Makes no difference to me whether to use them or not, so I choose to use them.
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