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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Sex Education Curriculum for the Department for Education

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LookingandThinking · 11/07/2022 07:23

Sex Education Curriculum for Department for Education

Here is a curriculum, concise, easy to understand and teach, and cost effective.

Biology: Teach boys and girls to use condoms to prevent pregnancy and STDs.

Consent: Only consent to sex when you are really keen to do so. Talking with your partner helps you both decide what you want to do. Teach boys they are not entitled to another person's body. No means no. Teach girls assertiveness and to leave an uncomfortable or dangerous situation.

Homosexuality: It is fine if you are attracted to people of the same sex. There is civil partnership for homosexual adults.

Of course, there is more detail that can be added. It could be completed in 2 classes or more for a discussion, repetitive learning, such as always use a condom and how to maintain personal safety. The three main points are sufficient to what a government should advise, in safeguarding young people, physically and mentally.

Adolescents don't need a prescription of how to do sex. Sex is an experience of discovery between consenting people. It is important that the teachers or facilitators don't impose their opinions, as that could be grooming. We have overcorrected since the days of not talking about sex at all. There could be an emotional wellbeing element as well, but fundamentally, condoms and consent are the main points.

It is uncomfortable discussing sex and people have a lot of feelings around it. I don't believe it is for the government to manage peoples personal sex lives, once safeguarding is observed.

Do you think there are any other essential points that young people should know?

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LookingandThinking · 12/07/2022 07:41

Thanks everyone, it's great to have this conversation.

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SirVixofVixHall · 12/07/2022 10:30

MrsOvertonsWindow · 11/07/2022 09:14

Trying to remember what I said to warrant a deletion? Maybe challenging the nature of some adults involved in wanting to talk to other people's children about sex and their personal experiences?

What I did like was this:
Adolescents don't need a prescription of how to do sex. Sex is an experience of discovery between consenting people. It is important that the teachers or facilitators don't impose their opinions, as that could be grooming. We have overcorrected since the days of not talking about sex at all.

I agree with this too. Sex is a conversation, a communication. Not a series of acts that one must be taught how to do.
As the OP says, explain the basics and pregnancy, talk about safety, teach about proper consent. There is so much pressure on girls to be sexually active that I don’t think they ever realise this is coercion, that pressuring someone emotionally using manipulation is abuse.

Beowulfa · 12/07/2022 10:42

When I went to university one of my new friends, who'd done a gap year so was older, was a virgin and completely unfazed by this. In her own words "I haven't met anyone I fancy enough to get naked with." I think she was 21 when she had her first sexual relationship. It made an extremely strong impression on me, one that I still remember ~25 years later.

I'd love teenagers to hear an intelligent, confident, stunning young woman say being a virgin was really no big deal.

Musomama1 · 12/07/2022 11:04

Looking back on my day PP the strongest messages we girls got (not sure from where as we had zero sex education) was don't get pregnant, seriously absolutely do not get pregnant, wait until you're 16 and have a nice first partner. Probably from magazines and the media.

Anything extra was gleaned from More magazine. Or late night on channel 4.

ScrollingLeaves · 13/07/2022 09:49

Yes, add something about the heart of relationships starting with the simplest, the feelings for family, friends, pets, the world of nature; and the mutual respect and care we show each other, reciprocally. Also our relationship with ourselves - we care for and respect ourselves too.

I think you are right though about the rest.

ScrollingLeaves · 13/07/2022 09:51

Sorry, I didn’t mean ‘starting with’.
That’s it.

ScrollingLeaves · 13/07/2022 10:03

Beowulfa Yesterday 10:42
I'd love teenagers to hear an intelligent, confident, stunning young woman say being a virgin was really no big deal.

I agree. Some young women I know were like this. and up to an older age. They are both beautiful, attractive, clever, good at what they do, and have very happy, secure, family backgrounds.

It was just that they were so sure of themselves that they knew they only wanted to be with someone when they felt sure.

MrsOvertonsWindow · 13/07/2022 10:14

Beowulfa Yesterday 10:42
I'd love teenagers to hear an intelligent, confident, stunning young woman say being a virgin was really no big deal

So true. Sadly what many children now get from the dodgy sex ed providers is a diet of sex work is a great choice, kink and fetish are so desirable (and let me tell you what it entails) and anal / choking / inflicting pain etc can be oh so pleasurable (and let me show you how).

Returning the sex ed curriculum to something that's in children's best interests can't happen soon enough.

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