I'm not sure if I'm in the correct place and should maybe be in LGBT children but I'm back for more advice.
DD13 started identifying as trans about 18 months ago. Hair has been cut, clothing changed to shapeless baggy stuff, all fine. Name change has happened at school but not at home.
The issue I'm having at the moment is chest binding 😔 she's asked numerous times over the last six months or so and we've obviously refused, explaining the reasons why. We've offered to buy a sports bra, although at the moment we wouldn't really need to buy her any type of bra as she hasn't really developed enough to require one, but this isn't good enough. She's come back to me with something she has found online, trans tape, and can she have that. I don't know how many times I can say the same thing.
I think she would benefit from speaking to someone but I don't know how to find someone that won't just affirm everything she believes without exploring why she thinks she can become a boy. I have spoken with the GP after an incident of self harm after my last refusal of binders and they suggested a self referral to chams. However I'm not convinced they are the right avenue to take.
And advice on how to find a counsellor who will explore her feelings rather than just affirm them would be very much appreciated.