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How to find GC women in real life?

42 replies

Kreature69 · 28/05/2022 06:55

Firstly. Yes I name change a lot. I have lurked around for some time.....but I don't know anyone in real life who either knows the issues or cares. How do I find you? Google reveals nothing. Having gone back to work recently issues are becoming more real.....not in a good way. I am beds/ herts border.

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oldwomanwhoruns · 28/05/2022 07:27

The Women's Rights Network. Find us on Twitter or their website. There are groups of us all over the UK 😊
www.womensrights.network/

MrsOvertonsWindow · 28/05/2022 07:28

Sin up to Fair Play for Women, Transgender Trend etc. Look for a Resisters group local to you? KJK's meetings in Hyde Park? It's hard to find initially as women have to be so careful to protect themselves but it is possible.

Signalbox · 28/05/2022 07:41

I’ve been looking too OP. WRN didn’t get back to me sadly. As pp said the groups are hard to find I guess they need to keep low key for obvious reasons!

TopKnotch · 28/05/2022 08:17

All the people around you probably?

I find a little conversation opener about prisons, or hospitals, or prize short lists....

My family had a lot of "be kind" people and I've lost dropped nuggets and gently challenged and in reality, they're all GC now

prettytoes · 28/05/2022 09:34

There are feminists groups on Twitter you can contact and they will point you towards your local group, depending where you are. Scottish Feminists, ReSisters, try Womens Rights Network again, Northern Rad Fem Network

mudgetastic · 28/05/2022 09:54

You may find there are plenty around

So far only one couple has turned out to not be GC

One was very kind but still sees limits

There are a much larger number of friends who are more dismissive of trans people than mnhq would tolerate

McDuffy · 28/05/2022 09:57

I met up with two from my city's feminist Facebook group for a cocktail this week Grin It was so energising! The meeting rather than the drink. They also recommended the women's rights network

WhiskerPatrol · 28/05/2022 10:12

I think there's a gathering at Speaker's Corner in London at 1 pm tomorrow

WeeBisom · 28/05/2022 10:34

Follow the feminist calendar on Twitter, it shows all the major feminist events in the U.K. for each month.

Phobiaphobic · 28/05/2022 10:35

I share your difficulties, OP. Sounded out a friend the other week and she turned out to be full on TWAW. So depressing.

I've looked to contact the local WRN on Twitter, but the organiser doesn't follow me so I can't DM her.

xorymum · 28/05/2022 10:36

They don't exist. She's a reality show personality that is a complete act, but I suspect she is hard work in real life too

Why would you want to have women like her in your life OP? She is nothing but drama and more drama

xorymum · 28/05/2022 10:37

Sorry, didn't read your post properly and went in at your title. I'm sorry Blush

Original poster
Kreature69 · 28/05/2022 17:23

xorymum · 28/05/2022 10:36

They don't exist. She's a reality show personality that is a complete act, but I suspect she is hard work in real life too

Why would you want to have women like her in your life OP? She is nothing but drama and more drama

Omg that's funny!

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summer712 · 28/05/2022 17:42

I don't think there are any. My friend thinks I am a loon after I mentioned this whole issue to her and is still of the opinion that none of this actually happens.

My other close friend hasn't said as much but she has no issues and can't see any issues with TWAW.

I didn't understand till I stumbled on these boards a few years ago.

My DH just doesn't get it. Agrees in principle but I can tell he thinks it's not happening and I am going on about nothing.

I am noticing more and more on forms I fill in that sex has been replaced with gender.

Why can't they have sex and a separate drop down for gender? That's the scary thing, gender doesn't replace sex but it is being replaced everywhere.

It's so shit.

All this TWAW. They are not. If you are a women and in a relationship with a TW who still has their penis you can still get pregnant. That's basic biology.

MintTeaLady · 28/05/2022 18:48

I went back to work last year and felt rather panicked by the changes around me. Turns out that all but two that I’ve raised with the issue with completely get it. You will not be alone at work with your views.

LeniGray · 28/05/2022 19:05

I don’t know anyone in real life who gets it either. One friend, who always been somewhat holier-than-thou, is completely clueless: I made the mistake of discussing my anger at athletes like Lia Thomas with her, and she actually said to me ‘TWAW… no debate!’. At which I thought ‘Fuck off!’ but said something much more measured. I suspect I won’t hear from her again. I have made a small stand against it in work though, which resulted in a an apology from a colleague, so that was a small win.

MrsMidClegs · 28/05/2022 19:37

Re the WRN you need to have a personal introduction from someone you know in real life who is in one of the groups.
I would pop down to Reformers Tree tomorrow and chat with people, everyone is very friendly! There is sometimes a visit to the pub afterwards.

WhiskerPatrol · 28/05/2022 20:37

Actually I think it's 12 pm tomorrow!

Triotriotrio · 29/05/2022 22:46

Every single person I've spoken to about it in real life has turned out to be GC. It's surprising. Even all the men, and I work in circles you'd expect to be TRA

littlbrowndog · 29/05/2022 22:51

Everyone I know doesn’t believe TWAW.

we are just ordinary people.

EmpressaurusWitchDoesntBurn · 29/05/2022 22:56

WhiskerPatrol · 28/05/2022 20:37

Actually I think it's 12 pm tomorrow!

It’s shifted to 1pm now because of lighter evenings.

We know that TRAs & other misogynists keep a very close eye on these threads & would love to muscle in on our groups, so Reformers is a great place to start if you don’t know anyone.

IcakethereforeIam · 29/05/2022 22:58

I feel like this thread should have narration by David Attenborough.

My sister is GC, other women don't seem to know wtf I'm talking about. No-one has told me to die in a grease fire yet. I think my youngest thinks that, but kept it to themselves so far.

MagnoliaTaint · 29/05/2022 23:07

littlbrowndog · 29/05/2022 22:51

Everyone I know doesn’t believe TWAW.

we are just ordinary people.

Not entirely everyone, but I expect at least 3/4 of the populace have the same views as most women on this board.

It's not really exceptional to believe that there are two sexes and you can't change sex.

And that's really all there is to it.

FemaleAndLearning · 30/05/2022 00:20

I met other women by attending Standing for Women speakers corner event. Kelly Jay Keen does these outside of London too. I've been to Nottingham and Manchester but can't make Bristol this month. A friend has kept touch with women she met at a Woman's Place meeting.

It is really difficult to meet on line because you need personal introductions and a lot of vetting to confirm your identity.

I start little conversations with virtually everyone I know. It takes time though. You can't have a full on discussion just drop some well sourced nuggets. There is quite a bit in the news lately to pass comment on.

Don't loose hope. The suffragettes had no technology and had limited freedoms but they still won their battle. We will win this battle too. The hearts and minds of the public will reach a tipping point and we can all do our bit however small.

SoManyQuestionsHere · 30/05/2022 00:36

What if you're not in the UK?

Professional expat here. 3rd country in a decade at present.

It's hard enough to make friends as it is in this situation, never mind like minded ones when you're already the perpetual "resident stranger".

Any pointers welcome.