Why are TRAs body-shaming J.K. Rowling? - Jean Hatchett

[LittleWhingingWoman]

thecritic.co.uk/why-are-tras-body-shaming-j-k-rowling/

"We know what a female body feels like and moves like because we share the experience of living in one. A man does not, however he chooses to identify. These trans activists don’t seem to like the reality of female bodies in all their beautiful variety and are quick to pounce on a body that does not conform to a porn-dictated stereotype. Their tweets reveal a fear of the female body which is not surgically altered or surgically constructed from a male body."

I suppose if you reject your own body in favour of a stereotype you've seen in films or in porn you can't understand that women who go through life, having given birth or miscarried, having been lovers or abuse survivors, holding and comforting others, breastfeeding or mastectomy survivors... women, some FGM survivors, battle warriors with all our experiences, sometimes get to a point when we are older. At that point we actually love our bodies. We are at peace with ourselves. We look at our scars and our markings and our imperfections and decide we can live with ourselves and honour ourselves. Not only this but we are able to see this beauty more clearly in other older women.

Now, if you cannot stand your own body to the point you want to change sex, of course you will judge this brilliant and beautiful group of women as ugly. Because you can't see beyond an illusion.

It's the male gaze, isn't it. I never really understood it untill I saw Madagascar with my kids.

When the lion looks at his friend the zebra - and all he can see is meat chops. That's how men see us - boobs, legs etc - a collection of some body parts not the person.

@NeverDropYourMooncup

What they forget is that women have been told they're ugly and their appearance fully critiqued in terms of fuckability since they were about 11 years old. If we don't smile when ordered to, if we don't permit access to our bodies on demand, if we don't stand aside, we're told that we're ugly/fat/haggard.

As soon as we won't acquiesce to male demands and male entitlement and male abuse, from puberty, we're told our appearance is hideous and offensive to their eyes, often just seconds after they were convinced that we'd let them fuck us and be grateful for it, but found out that actually, no, we're not going to. As though not wanting to satisfy or facilitate any random man's entitlement is what has actually made us disgusting.

It's not anything to do with what we look like; it's the fact that we dared to say no that causes such rage and revulsion.

We're used to this shit. It's standard treatment for girls and women. Pretty much our entire fucking lives.

By fifty, we've heard it all before and it has no power over us - because men have used it as a means of control, oppression and abuse for near enough 80% of our existence, if not more, as 'you're ugly' often starts in the playground where boys parrot what they have been taught by men from infancy. It's just so very predictable. And boring.

They may as well call Rowling a teapot or a poopoohead for all the harm it's going to do to her.

Absolutely spot on.

@Somanysocks

I always get deleted for saying this, but it's a bit rich criticising the way a woman looks considering the way some of these transwomen turn themselves out in public.

I wish I had their magic mirrors.