There needs to be better dialogue all round, a vaginal birth can be a positive experience and whilst it wasn't jumping bunnies, none of mine were negative (in the bigger picture) experiences.
There was some issues - being told that I couldn't possibly be ready to push because it hadn't been long enough, and they reluctantly agreed to examine me - yes I was fully dilated. With number 2, I was slightly pre-term so was continually monitored and still told that I wasn't in labour. Thankfully the mw on the prenatal ward picked up that I was and so kept a close eye on me. The 'problem' I had and indeed my mom did too was that we labour in our hips so the machine does not pick up contractions - in fact the told my Dad to tell her to stop moaning - my sister was born 30 minutes later (bear in mine this was also a high risk pregnancy following a still birth) The first time I was stitched without any pain relief.
There is a common theme though, not being listened too, I was even told when my waters broke with dc2 that I had simply wet myself - my waters had gone at the onset of labour with dc1, I knew what I was feeling, but no it was simply that I had wet myself. dc1 they tried to send me home because they were so certain I wasn't in labour.
I watched the Panorama programme and in many of the stories there was nuggets of my experiences, I don't know why I was listened to and they weren't, being told it wasn't their waters that had broken, or that they couldn't possibly be in labour.
I shouldn't just be one of the lucky ones who had good experiences and good outcomes,* this should be for everyone. For some this will be a CS for others a VB on a few puffs of gas and air.
*Bar my earlier recounted experience, the experience and calmness of that MW potentially prevented a different outcome.