What is gender

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Apologies for being late to the re-education, but what is gender now? I'm aware it used to be interchangeable with biological sex, but what is it now? What is defined by the word gender that is not covered by biological sex, sexuality/sexual preference or individual personality? I've heard the phenotype/perception by the world definition which doesn't fit very well and want to get my head around what we are actually talking about as it all sounds ridiculous.

OP I think maybe you are having trouble believing that so many apparently intelligent, articulate, politically engaged, thoughtful, powerful people can accept that "gender" is basically a bunch of stereotypes broadly based in cultural perceptions of masculinity and femininity, and don't see a problem with it.

You are not alone, and you'll no doubt need to discover for yourself that this is the case, but that is the conclusion I've reached after several years of attempting to question it - not just on here but elsewhere, with trans people, NBs etc.

This is probably how the situation has got so far, everyone has been talking at cross purposes with no understanding of the meaning behind the terms being used

This is a feature, not a bug.
It's intentional. When asked very specific questions, the people who are so vocal about gender being everything, simply do not respond. I have a mental list of questions that remain unanswered, or given only a superficial answer that raises even more questions.

It is not in their interest to show us behind the curtain.