I was sent this article:
newdiscourses.com/2020/12/psychopathy-origins-totalitarianism/
by a friend who said 'This explains a lot', and it does. It sounds and looks challenging, but I found it quite easy to understand the basic points.
We used to have a third friend who has become a 'be kind' social justice warrior who has found her cause in gender ideology and spends much of her time socialising with and promoting TQ+ and denouncing those who don't go along with it as bigots.
I've been struggling to understand why whenever I meet this former friend I feel a kind of almost paralysing, visceral fear. When I explain it in the terms that spring to mind — that I feel as if I'm a member of the resistance and she's a Nazi or informer, or I'm a Chinese intellectual and she's a member of the Red Guard — it sounds ridiculously dramatic. But that's how it feels. The article explains why and makes total sense to me, despite the long words. I hope it may help others in a similar position.