People who mother

[IamAporcupine]

It was mother's day at my home country yesterday.
A friend shared an IG post critisising how all the advertisement for presents was still around cooking/cleaning/household appliances (shocking, I know). It had a 'fuck off' caption, and then a blurb with a 'happy people who mother's day!'

So who the hell are we trying to include here?

It must be 'persons' who have children (biological or adoptive) but because they do not 'feel' they are women cannot be called mothers?!
But surely if they feel they are men/male, then they would be happy to celebrate father's day. So this is cattering only for those who do not feel either male/female, or that they change 'gender' every day, or any other combination, correct?

Allegedly, they are OK with using the word mother as a verb to describe their role, but not with the same word used to describe them?
Again, it's OK to use a 'gendered' verb but not the word itself?

I know we are bodies with vaginas / persons who menstruate / etc etc, not sure why this one upset me so much. I guess because I love being a mother.

Also, when I commented with a 'this is crap', my friend asked a desingenious 'why?' so I can see the argument comming...

@Beowulfa

Maybe we should do away with Mothers Day and Fathers Day and just have parents day. I bet the card companies wouldn't like that.

Mothers Day was originally Mothering Sunday in the UK (4th Sunday in Lent), so it has its background in the nation's Christian heritage. Pleb workers were kindly allowed a Sunday off to visit their mother.

I like the days with a bit of history (Boxing Day, May Day); most are just invented for commercialism of course.

Yes it was originally Mothering Sunday but it wasn't originally to visit your mother it was to return to the Mother Church, the main church for your area.

I guess that mixes it all up again.

Risks playing into a whole load of stereotypes about mothers doing this (making lunch) and fathers doing that (football). Using terms based on role in producing offspring is therefore least offensive because purely factual.

@thirdfiddle

There's definitely some gender something going on if they're saying a father can mother!

Yes, you are right, but that might be just my friend's take on it. She's just started a postgraduate course in Feminism and LGBTQI XYZ issues