The Swindon Primary school toilets - parent speaks out.

[Whitefire]

Following on from the original thread about the primary school doing a U turn on the gender neutral toilets, a parent of the child at the centre of it has spoken out.

www.swindonadvertiser.co.uk/news/19600460.dad-whose-child-identifies-girl-devastated-school-gender-neutral-toilet-row/

There is the usual car / doll part (it's not about stereotypes but is in absolutely every narrative), but I found this quote interesting:

I can understand parents kicking off if my biological boy is using the girls’ toilets but I thought gender-neutral toilets were a good solution.

So there is an acknowledgment of biological reality, but also then the idea that making the girls use the toilets with lots of boys is better.

The solution has to be a third space, it simply doesn't work otherwise.

Masdintle

I read that from Necessary Scene as pointing out that there was nothing in the report to say why the male child could not continue to use the boys' toilets, regardless of what he was wearing.

@NancyDrawed

Masdintle

I read that from Necessary Scene as pointing out that there was nothing in the report to say why the male child could not continue to use the boys' toilets, regardless of what he was wearing.

nothing in the report to say why the male child could not continue to use the boys' toilets, regardless of what he was wearing.

Indeed. Sorry if that wasn't clear.

Ah thanks, apologies for my poor reading comprehension. Alles klar now

‘I thought gender neutral toilets were a good solution’ - said a man who only had his own child’s needs in the forefront of his mind (I can’t blame him for that last point though - don’t we all to some extent?).

I started my periods whilst in primary school, I was proud and embarrassed all at the same time. I had bought for me massive maternity pads by my mum, she probably couldn’t afford much else and I don’t remember a sanitary bin in the cubicle, they probably went in the main bin or came home (which would have meant coming out of the cubicle with them).

At the grand old age of 42, I occasionally still get blood on my hand, still haven’t mastered it!! And I have always suffered from a funny tummy (period shits) when my period is due. The thought of having to leave the cubicle with blood on my hand to get to the basins, or having a funny tummy moment in the toilets, with boys present at that young age makes me anxious! These girl’s worlds can change completely whilst at primary, why would people want to put them through anything else? Also, I’ve spent a tonne of time on ‘what’s in your pants is private’ with my kids, but I feel the world is against me…just open up these personal spaces to everyone…it’s so progressive!

It's so odd this insistence on calling them gender-neutral toilets.
They're unisex.
All single-sex toilets are gender-neutral.

They are mixed sex.

His argument is so wonky.

He sees that mixed sex toilets is a problem.

But if you simply relabel them gender neutral that changes everything.

Magic!

But if you simply relabel them gender neutral that changes everything.

Magic!

It is indeed.