Affectionate name for parent?

[quinoaletsgo]

The thought just popped into my head! Maybe this is something that does have a word or will!

It seems like more and more there is a move for gender neutrality in language and also a lot of people claiming gender fluidity and being offended by pronouns. Sooooo if they have children what do the children call them?! mum and dad are out of the question, it's too "sexed up". So is there an affectionate name for "parent"?

Im sure such people will invent some new sparkly title for themselves. Dreary people.

Well there's the birther and the fertiliser.

Dc sometimes get mixed up. Call dad mum and mum dad, then proposes that we should henceforth be known as Dam and Mud.

Sperm donor and birthers?

Swimmy and eggy might work.

Maybe just "mum" and "dad" because biological sex is real?

Or you could just call them "human 1" and "human 2".

Somehow that doesn't have the same ring to it.

I have a 15year old Son who is quite happy with the old fashioned terms for Mum & Dad so I don't care what the rest of the world decides.

I think for some people, I quite like the idea of them being called Dum and Mad……

What a strange question.

Families tend to end up with their own affectionate names.

The number of parents who don't like mum/ dad I'm sure are tiny. And if a child has a parent who rejects mum etc all the total norms because of gender then there's a whole lot of stuff going on and that's a small thing.

Primary caregiver & secondary caregiver. Depending on who does the majority of childcare. Pri-pri and sec-sec.

In the 70s I think there was a thing about children calling you by name not mum dad

Been there nothing new.

This thread feels like it's trivialising things and taking the piss out of a group who must be very small.

I don't get it. What's your point OP?

I called my parents by their first name. I would.have been happy with that for my kids too. Indeed my first child called.me A contraction of my name for a long while. My partner wasn't happy with his name contraction so we become Dad and Mum.

I've heard the word 'Ren' used before, a short for parent

I've seen it argued that 'mum' and 'dad' are titles related to your role in a person's upbringing, rather than specifically describing a gestational or non-gestational parent. So for example a trans man could be 'Dad' and also be the gestational parent. In the same way that an adoptive mum is a non-gestational parent but is still Mum.
There are some gender-neutral parenting terms which I've heard non-binary people use - such as 'ren', or the word for parent in other languages, or many just use their own names.
I think some countries (including the US) also have a parents day/caregivers day in addition to mother's/father's day, which is a nice idea for celebrating parent figures who aren't identified as mum or dad.

Loads of languages have a word that is very like mum for mother.

When babies start making sounds they usually start with a mumumumuma sound. Usually their main focus caregiver etc is their mum.

So that's why. It's not a random word. It comes from the babies development vocally and who usually is their focus.

The dadadada sound comes next. So again.

There's a reason for these words. They're not random.

Sorry not like mum like mumma more like. You know what I mean I'm sure!

Cash points?

I read an article where an American non-binary mum’s kids called her Mappa (Ma and Pa

@DefineHappy - yep I like Dum & Mad from the title of a Nadine Shah album Love Your Dum & Mad

In my house both of us are mostly called "mummydaddy" or "daddymummy"

I don't think our kids see much difference in our roles. We are a pretty gender non conforming household and both parents can and do fulfil all and any parental duties, responsibilities and fun stuff. The kids I think see us as totally interchangeable. The only exception is when they are sick they tend to want me. But I suspect that is less to do with me being mum and more to do with me being better at sitting still and cuddling up with them.

@DefineHappy

I think for some people, I quite like the idea of them being called Dum and Mad……

LOL

@NiceGerbil

What a strange question.

Families tend to end up with their own affectionate names.

The number of parents who don't like mum/ dad I'm sure are tiny. And if a child has a parent who rejects mum etc all the total norms because of gender then there's a whole lot of stuff going on and that's a small thing.

There was a thread about "mum groups" and "dad groups" for baby classes and it crossed my mind.

Personally I don't understand gender fluidity and thing is just bonkers but the truth is there are more and more people claiming it and requesting non gendered everything!

How would that poster's thread be like in that case?

@custardbear

I've heard the word 'Ren' used before, a short for parent

Looks like there is a word