@anaily
I don't find it confusing, there are people where their sex and gender are in harmony, the are people where the is a mismatch so they describe it in a way that is comfortable for them, that takes nothing away from me. I understand that you feel that it does strip you of your identity when someone else says they are not their sex.
there are people where their sex and gender are in harmony, the are people where the is a mismatch
What is sex?
What is gender?
When you say sex and gender are in harmony or a mismatch, what exactly do you mean?
To be clear, I am not asking because I am somehow confused, don't understand or have not heard the concepts before. I am fully aware of them, aware in fact of many different and often contradicting explanations, and I know what I think.
Right now, I'm interested in what you think.
I will be honest, I am asking because I suspect there will be some inconsistencies in your thinking, but I don't want to jump in and make assumptions without knowing exactly what you understand these things to be and how they relate to each other, so rather than assume I know what you think I'm asking you to explain in your own words.
I understand that you feel that it does strip you of your identity when someone else says they are not their sex.
Ah, I think you may misunderstand here. Certainly for myself, I don't feel stripped of my identity because someone says they are not their sex.
I do, however, feel stripped of the name that my group, the female bodied, have used for centuries, the name that we fought for rights under and the name that our single sex rights, opportunities and protections were given under, and therefore the rights, opportunities and protections themselves . Because when a male person claims they must be counted and included as Woman or Female, entirely interchangeable with someone who has lived from birth in a female body and experienced the implications of having that body in this society, they are making the name Woman or Female cover a different group than the one it has historically meant, and that leaves that original group nameless.
Do you think that female people - to be clear, female bodied people, the group that has suffered and continues to suffer sexism and oppression because of their bodies - should be allowed a name?
And I also feel misgendered, because when that male person claims we are both Women, she is making a statement that womanhood is a state of mind not a fact of the body. But while that may be true for her that is not how I experience womanhood. So she is imposing her own, male view of my identify over my own.
Do you think that a male person's belief about a female person should have more authority than that female person's own self-knowledge?