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Abuse from car drivers

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Greenfieldsandpaddocks · 20/07/2021 09:43

Twice is as many days I have received abuse for being a woman.

Yesterday, tail gated by 5 huge burly blokes in fiesta -tail gated right on the end of my bumper. I pulled over to let them pass. Bloke shouted at me 'women shouldn't be drivers too slow' as he drove past (2 kids in the car).

Today's was caught on dash cam.2 blokes in a huge white van. Forced me to brake hard as they came around the corners in a huge white van on the WRONG side of the road to overtake a parked car. This time I have video and have taken photos. Have got the reg and I beeped my horn as he forced me to brake as he came round the corner.
He then two fingered me and called me a 'stupid woman'. I have pictures of this.

I was going slowly, with the dash cam on.
IF I report to the police -I'm pretty sure they won't do anything. Anyone else getting stuff like this. I could post them in a local FB group, but even then what happens? I don't think I've had abuse from a woman driver ever (I'm sure it happens) but it is this male entitlement that they seemingly own the roads. Anyone else feel like this?

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bewilderedhedgehog · 21/07/2021 20:18

I had a lovely one a few years ago, which I still remember fondly. Driving into a multi storey car park - large van in front has misjudged the height of the entrance to the car park. I can't immediately reverse due to cars behind me. Obviously his fragile male ego has taken a hit so he leans out of the window and shouts "reverse you stupid effing cow" etc. It had been a long day already, I had three children with me so I just turned the engine off and waited. His passenger gets out of the van to ask me to reverse (by this time cars behind me have created some space), and I said that as soon as the driver apologises I will be happy to move. It took some more waiting, but eventually he apologises and we all start to move. All totally unnecessary!

Greenfieldsandpaddocks · 23/07/2021 09:34

@Tommika

Even though nothing may seem to be done, reporting to the police gets things logged. They may add up eventually and create a pattern of bad driving or there may be reports by others of the same day etc

With regard to the van “Forced me to brake hard as they came around the corners in a huge white van on the WRONG side of the road to overtake a parked car.”
As described the van wasn’t necessarily sound anything wrong - if a car is parked on the road then surely other vehicles would need to change sides of the road to get past??
So your need to brake could mean you weren’t driving appropriately for a corner with a car parked on it, or for the distance that you could see.
If you just mean you needed to slow then neither of you were in the wrong
If the parked car causes a hazard on a corner then it’s them who were in the wrong

So I’m driving - dash cam on slowly and carefully as there are lots of parked cars my side of the road is clear. But I’m still driving carefully and a van comes around the corner at HIGH speed on the wrong side of the road and you think without dash am footage or my words that I must be wrong as I braked hard to avoid a huge white van slamming into my car - I must be at fault (scratches head) - we just always blame the woman right?
Abuse from car drivers
Abuse from car drivers
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Greenfieldsandpaddocks · 23/07/2021 09:36

@mumsnet HQ have posted one of some children by mistake alongside my other one could you please delete it - Thanks

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