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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Message from a future, post-genderism world

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33feethighandrising · 14/07/2021 12:02

I love this from Dennis Noel Kavanagh, @Jebadoo2 on Twitter.

Beautifully written IMO and I can't agree more with how social media is fucking up the youth. I can’t imagine how stifling it must be to have your every move potentially captured & made available publicly, forever. I was anxious enough as a teen about feeling judged by my peers, without this threat to back it up, wasn't everyone?


This will not be known as the age of trans enlightenment or LGBTQIAA2++ liberation. It will be known as the age of "genderism". A reductive creed best intellectually situated alongside anorexia, child beauty pageants and mass gym membership as an age of the worship of the self

Genderism will be regarded as a historical folly, a dead end which produced madness. The madness of children not capable in law of getting tattoos but capable in law of forsaking puberty. Adults with shrivelled genitals because of a decision when they were 10.

Genderism will be remembered for silencing and castigating Detransitioners. PHDs will be written about "detransioner voices" - that will be fashionable and counter cultural in 50 years time. They will be the sort of interesting, hidden voices that get academics prizes

Genderism will be the force that revived the 1950s. It called fay boys "Pofs" and "Fggots" and butch girls "d*kes" but the genius was it made them call themselves "non binary". They were chased from their natal genders, convinced they did not even deserve their pronouns.

Genderism silenced the AIDS generation. It ignored the gay men who survived it and the lesbians who held the hand of the dying, nursed them through. It called them TERFS and dinosaurs and spat on their objections to being called "Queer". It was ahistorical.

Yet from history it came. The girls who used to starve themselves under genderism bound their breasts or has mastectomies. The boys who couldn't be muscle men were told to amputate their genitals. What god set wrong, man's knife could make right.

Genderism will be remembered as a leapfrog from the 50s to the 20s. The gender bending of the 80s and 90s, wild with complexity was no match for the iPhone generation and gay rights movements hungry for new markets and soldiers. Everything is recorded.

Just as the mobile phone demanded a personal account of a human on a daily basis with their social media so Genderism demanded an audit of the human soul of the new young. They were to account for their souls to a binary of action man and barbie.

This public form of life by committee meant all those secret, forgotten, private things. Those nights in a forest, that time she got drunk and wore her hair short or he played with makeup. All those crazy wild, tropical butterflies of youth. That vast swarm of colours.....

Each had to be pinned dead to a board and labelled like an exhibit in the natural history museum. This life permanently observed had no space for private, human, wild, nights in the dark. It had no place to accept that something can happen even if it is not observed.

Genderism pinned the butterflies to boards and made them dead and still. The curators told of their wild colours and tropical identities but they had the pallor and stillness of the soul of a thing living half it's life. They became collectors of who they were.

They were observers of their own lives. They were not lived. They were observed. Questioned. Queried. Criticised, pilled on. They were never free from the committee. Genderism depended on expression but it accepted not that for the young it is a beautiful, changing fire.

Genderism was the end point of the human body as a consumer object.

It is closer to anorexia, gym obsession, fad diets, comfort eating, beauty pageants than it is to gay rights.

It reduced the human body to a problem to be solved.

Genderism ended because it brought no joy. It was an empty offer. A busted flush. A bad deal. A con. A form of embodied neurosis far away from human joy.

It was defeated by freedom and humanity. Freedom of speech. Freedom to be who you are without a box or a label.

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Ninkanink · 14/07/2021 12:07

Wow. That is truly powerful.

ArtemesiaK · 14/07/2021 12:09

I can't wait for this current stupidity to be confined to history....

OldTurtleNewShell · 14/07/2021 12:29

It will be interesting to see how history reviews this.
I find it utterly extraordinary that society has become so invested in believing in stereotypes that people are actually cheerleading gender non-conforming children taking medication and surgery so they'll better fit the 'right' gender.
There are going to be a lot of people in coming decades demanding answers as to why they were told that they were in the 'wrong body' for being gender non-conforming as children.
I do think gender extremism is starting to wane, but it is going to leave a huge amount of damage in its wake.

MidsomerMurmurs · 14/07/2021 12:57

Well that absolutely nails it. Even when things are at their most depressing, it’s worth remembering that all things pass, and people in the future will look back at today’s insanity with a mix of revulsion and shame.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 14/07/2021 13:00

So powerful. I follow him on Twitter, he's well worth it!

littlbrowndog · 14/07/2021 13:03

Me to erish

He is great

theThreeofWeevils · 14/07/2021 13:27

Um. The author initially seems to equate anorexia with 'worship of the self', when it is pretty much the polar opposite of that. There are close parallels to be drawn with gender dysphoria, of course, but that isn't addressed.

highame · 14/07/2021 13:30

Great piece. How widely is this likely to be cirulated, because it ought to be required reading for academics, surgeons and politicians.

On the plus side, we might all be viewed as martyrs or resistance fighters

Ereshkigalangcleg · 14/07/2021 13:48

Um. The author initially seems to equate anorexia with 'worship of the self', when it is pretty much the polar opposite of that.

Yes I agree that was slightly clumsy wording, I can see where he was going with it as a theme, talking about the toxicity of our appearance based culture and how it harms people, but it does come across as you say. And I agree there are strong parallels with GD.

quixote9 · 15/07/2021 08:43

"Genderism pinned the butterflies to boards and made them dead and still. ... They became collectors of who they were."

Exactly. Exactly. I've been trying to articulate that feeling for years. That's it. Thank you for posting this!

ferretface · 15/07/2021 09:21

Anorexia isn't fuelled by self love or worship of the self but in my experience (had an ED as a teen) it has lots of features that superficially look like that, body checking, all consuming obsession with what's happening to your body, insularity, selfishness, totally caught up in yourself.

I think gender dysphoria can be similar tbh. I began to recover from my ED when my life changed and I had fewer opportunities to ruminate/obsess.

PhiRhoSigma · 15/07/2021 09:50

"an age of the worship of the self"

Sums it up completely. And yet at the same time, relinquishing your private self into the public domain, in technicolour detail, every day, every hour, where it will endure forever.

The tech bosses who drive social media know this all too well, and keep their families a million miles from Insta etc.

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