I think that's bravely and well spoken, Ova, and indeed, apart from a very few notable exceptions, I have only ever seen transwomen visit FWR, for example, to explain why women's boundaries are arbitrary and wholly malleable based on the wants and comfort of the transwoman.
This attitude ranges from the overt disregard 'get over it' style demand often displayed by the poster on this thread, through the wheedling 'I try to be respectful as I ignore the boundaries of women' (an example of which we've seen here with a new poster in the last couple of days, and many times before) to even some purported feminist allies who operate on the perception that, as they are one of the naice transwomen who sort of get women's concerns, they get a pass.
But I do agree with OldTurtle that it's pretty much impossible to use the phrase 'what ordinary trans people want' in any meaningful sense, given the trans umbrella encompasses such a wide and varied cohort, many of whom have absolutely no shared characteristics whatsoever.
I am amused that the stellar legal mind on the thread appears to either be suggesting that Helen is right and their demands are not shared by the vast bulk of trans people, or that you are right and most trans people do indeed want to disregard and silence women.
I mean, I think either of those possibilities is pretty damning to the credibility of the notion of transactivism being a benign civil rights movement, but then I'm not the lawyer defending an lobby group that tried to force a firm to bully a black lesbian because she disagreed with the lobby group.
Perhaps I'll be kind and call it chutzpah.