Sorry Rockybooboo 
that sounds upsetting, especially when it's a good friend. And considering that you experienced a serious rape attempt that you, like so many of us, didn't feel you could report, it makes her insensitive, ill-judged remarks even more hurtful.
I do know that those working in law enforcement can develop a somewhat warped view of people, because they deal with some of the worst of society. I had a family member who swore blind that wasn't true because he wouldn't be like that, ever. Until he left his crime unit and moved to a different one altogether and within a year he had a different view of the matter.
But your friend's views are so astonishingly ignorant, I wonder if that's all coming from the new man.
Take this claim:
That Muslim countries have lower rape cases as the women are dressed appropriately
What happens to too many women who report having been raped in conservative Muslim countries is that the police will definitely arrest the victim for having had sex outside of marriage. They do sometimes arrest the rapist, but even where they do, the rapist almost always walks free while his victim is punished. And she is punished by the state, society and frequently her own family, who are burdened with the shame of her rape.
So rape case numbers are lower in these countries because the cost of reporting a rape is too high.
Or this:
She also said that most accusation of rape were lies.
There is quite a bit of recent research into false rape accusations that shows (IIRC) that in the UK they amount to 4% of all reported rapes while across Europe and in the US rates of between 2 to 10% were found.
Older research is quite unreliable as the judgement of whether an allegation was false or not was often made based on the researcher's idea of how a rape victim should look or behave.
But the new research seems far more reliable, even though methodical issues that affect their accuracy remain. For example, even these low numbers are often inflated, by including incidents the police has logged as "no crime". Which is what happens if a neighbour phones the police to report a rape, because that's what they think they heard, and when the police investigate (if they do) nothing comes of it. That's not a false allegation, but it's often still counted as one.
A 2005 Home Office study for instance found that both police and prosecutors were prone to overestimating the number of false rape claims considerably. In this study it was shown that the police had classified 8% of over 2600 rape cases as false allegations, but an investigation showed that only 2.5% met the criteria for a false allegation.
And false rape accusations aren't always made with malicious intent. A CPS study in the UK in 2011/12 for instance found that half of the women making a false allegation were either under 21 and/or vulnerable. And most of them don't name a perpetrator.
We also know that only a fraction of rapes are actually reported to the police. So the proportion of false rape claims to actual rape crimes committed is even smaller.
Wikipedia has quite a good entry on the issue: en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/False_accusation_of_rape