That was really interesting thank you for posting.
It's good to read something that is detailed and thought out rather than no debate.
I have a lot of thoughts so in brief.
During the first parts I thought. When women present arguments about our concerns, we tend to feel it personally. And are arguing against the likes of stonewall, orgs with power who are changing stuff, and the vocal extreme tras. Women feel personally under attack by things that are way bigger than them, feel very insecure and are outraged at eg prisons etc. The risks to us as a group are blatantly obvious.
The tone of that was similar. Ordinary trans people I'm sure read the stuff in the press and feel personally attacked. Just going about life quietly, why is there all this stuff drawing attention etc. And the fact that loads of people will be suspicious, hateful etc to those who can be seen as trans is true. So it's again a feeling of massive groups against you.
Ok so good.
The stuff about grassroots etc all good. Why the hell haven't stonewall etc been doing stuff that actually helps? That's alluded to. Mutual support groups. Trying to improve services for eg poverty will help all, doesn't always need to be trans only.
Yep yep.
Then it compounds that big forces thing. It's fair to say that women who have been openly pushing back are fairly small in number. I can see how that could be seen, when under threat, in the way it's presented. It's incorrect that it's a few women and where's the money coming from but I can get why that conclusion could seem right. The right wing stuff. Not sure. But women know and suspect that our rights are always on wobbly ground so I can see that.
I have no doubt that people who others see as trans get an awful lot of shit. Discrimination. Violence. No doubt about that.
I admit I skimmed a bit towards the end.
The point about working with others esp feminists to get rid of sex roles (gender binary) ok great let's do it.
The stuff towards the end, well a lot I'd argue with.
The idea near the beginning of shared electrolysis units is a really good one. Is it called electrolysis? The hair thing. Yes. That's a great idea! Cost effective, benefits many, helping each other etc etc.
In the end I was really pleased to read a thought through piece where I could say yep yep that's good. No don't agree but can see why you've said that. Nope don't agree at all.
This feels like a person that could be worked with, you know? Who might listen. Who I for one would listen to. And maybe come up with some mutually beneficial ideas.
The polarised fight thing is the direct fault of those who planned to and got things changed in the background, stonewall etc.
Feminists and trans people could and should have been allies. If it had been grassroots it would have been. We have both been fucked over by these shadowy shenanigans.
So yes thank you for sharing.
Stonewall etc have such a lot to answer for.
Maybe there should be some attempt to connect with some people like this? Just to talk. Share concerns and experiences. Agree disagree but understand that in the end at this level for both sides it's about fear. And fuck nodebate. Maybe it wouldn't get anywhere but it's worth a shot.
This person's concerns are much more relatable as well. Poverty. Police not interested. Employment discrimination etc. Real concerns. Not Olympic sport or being eligible for woman of the year awards iyswim.
Yeah thanks OP :)