Bride dies during wedding - so groom marries bride's sister same ceremony

[Wrongsideofhistorymyarse]

This makes me so angry. Women are indistinguishable pieces of property

www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-9644501/Bride-drops-dead-heart-attack-wedding-India.html

@Floisme

If it turns out that the marriage had been delayed to give this young woman time to process her sister's death and give her consent then Id view it differently. But, from the way it's been reported, that didn't happen - her sister's body was still in the house according to all those articles. That does not sound ok to me.

Likewise, if Diana had known about Charles's relationship with Camilla when she first agreed to marry him then no problem as far as I'm concerned. But according to all reports I've seen, by the time she found out, the marriage plans were in full swing and she felt unable to back out.

I'm not so sure though that this feeling isn't in part because it seems like such an odd thing for us culturally. It seems like they were all sad about the sister's death.

Also, weddings in India are extraordinarily expensive affairs, they can put people into bankruptcy. I don't think that's a very good thing but it would make sense that canceling at the last minute and replanning for later could be a serious financial loss. Of course that also could put pressure on around making a decision quickly but I don't think that means that the women are being treated as property by the family or no one is considering what they want or their welfare. They are subject to the economic pressures of around them just like everyone else.

To expand on that a bit - we tend to delay a lot of things now, till a better time. Even funerals. I don't think that's so common in many other places fora variety of reasons.

I believe there's a huge difference between an arranged marriage and a forced marriage.
I believe in consent and I would apply that to any culture.
If that makes me culturally insensitive or even a frother then guilty as charged.

I haven't said that?

What I've suggested is that while it does seem like such a quick decision has downsides, there are reasons apart from some sort of coercion or some sort of deep seated sexism and the parents just wanting the dowry that a family or individual might feel the need to make a decision relatively quickly.

If we think of similar levels of financial outlay in our economic situation, a mortgage say, we might feel we had to make a rather quicker decision than was ideal over something important when it could mean paying the cost a second time. It doesn't mean we wouldn't really try to make the best decision for the right reasons.

No you didn't say that, apologies if it looks like I think you did - I was replying to more than one post.

I'll say it one more time and then I'm off because I'm starting to bore myself: My only concern is whether she (and yes, the groom too) gave informed consent.

@Floisme

No you didn't say that, apologies if it looks like I think you did - I was replying to more than one post.

Oh, good - thanks. I thought I must be sounding very obtuse.

I saw that! Horrible 😢