30

[RaeRaeMama]

I'm 30 tomorrow!

It's not going to be quite like how I imagined as my baby will need to go to hospital for antibiotics early afternoon and it usually takes about 3 hours

I'm a new first time mum and I'm an anxious mess at the moment so not in a particularly empowering frame of mind

Tell me what your 30s are like, I'm sure I heard that your 30's are less of an emotional rollercoaster - is this true for you?

Are your 30s better than your 20s? Or maybe things didn't get really good until your 40s, 50s, 60s...

Please share!

My 30s have been absolutely great. It probably depends on so many personal factors and circumstances of course - and I don't know if you'll ever really be able to sure which stage of life is best. They'll all bring their challenges and opportunities. However, usually I think that the older you get, the more capable and experienced you become.

I'm guessing you're posting in feminism because you specifically want a chat about power dynamics between the sexes too in the context of "empowerment"? In which case I'm definitely happy to say that the older I've grown, the less of a shit I've given about what men think about me, and the more I've felt confident in questioning and challenging the status quo.

Hope your child is okay, that would probably be worrying for any parent of any age.

Hi op, just a fly by post about the antibiotics.

Just going to say from personal experience do not feel pressured to take baby home until infection markers have gone down to zero (or equivalent that they need to do) stay in hospital as long as you think it's needed, better safe than sorry.
Also, if you go home and then need to go back do so- don't get fobbed off with 111.
Hope it goes well xx

yup, the older I get the fewer fucks I give
its great
wait till you turn 50 and become invisible to men most of the time, very liberating

You found the FWR boards eight years before I did
My 30s were better than my 20s, and my 40s so far are angrier than both put together!

I separated at 30. Thought all was going downhill from then. Forwards 18months and I got a happy birthday hoy temptress card from the future father of my two kids. I’m pretty pleased with the hand I got after divorce.
I have ups and downs, some difficult staff with my kids too but pretty content overall.

Hope your little one gets well soon.

for your birthday tomorrow, OP, and for your baby. Hope they're better soon.

My 30th birthday was pretty awful, really, I was not in a good place and scunnered by hitting that age.

Through my 30s life got steadily better and better, and by 40 life was pretty good - I'm a different person these days.

So yes, ime, it gets better.

@McDuffy

You found the FWR boards eight years before I did My 30s were better than my 20s, and my 40s so far are angrier than both put together!

Pahaha you sound like me

I can't imagine that I could possibly be angrier but I will probably have more to be angry about.

@StillWeRise

yup, the older I get the fewer fucks I give its great wait till you turn 50 and become invisible to men most of the time, very liberating

This is what I need in life

To give less fucks

Welcome to your 30s, OP.

@RebeccaOfSunnyHellFarm

Hi op, just a fly by post about the antibiotics.

Just going to say from personal experience do not feel pressured to take baby home until infection markers have gone down to zero (or equivalent that they need to do) stay in hospital as long as you think it's needed, better safe than sorry.
Also, if you go home and then need to go back do so- don't get fobbed off with 111.
Hope it goes well xx

My baby will have been on 14 days of antibiotics, when her markers were checked last week they were at 2

I hate taking her to hospital everyday, I HATE it. The moment they say it's time to stop we'll be gone. I am not concerned that they are going to try to get me to leave too soon, the majority of treatment has been a precaution in the absence of evidence

@ArabellaScott

Welcome to your 30s, OP.

Thanks

My 30s were tough. Infertility, multiple pregnancy loss, mental illness and health problems, then after accepting I would never have kids, two children in quick succession. Having a daughter made me question pretty much my whole life. Even now I get flashes of things that were said or done to me as a child that never bothered me as an adult but horrify me as I think of my daughter experiencing the same. I didn’t experience this with my son.

On the other hand it was only after 30 that I learned to say no, to stand up for myself, to say out loud “I’m not comfortable with this” and also to put myself in other’s shoes even when they hurt me or my kids. I learned to ask for help when I need it, not to wait for someone to force me. I learned how to speak kindly to myself, to forgive myself, and to question my own thoughts and feelings. I learned that other people are mostly concerned with themselves, not me.

And I could write a whole other post about what I have enjoyed learning in my 40s.

Happy birthday. The fun is just beginning. I hope your baby is ok.

Well I hope your 30’s turn out better than mine, OP!
Mine included a miscarriage, having my contract terminated while pregnant with DD1, and being widowed the day before my 36th birthday, when DD2 was 11 months old. Followed by raising two DDs alone while working full time as a hospital doctor, 250 miles away from my nearest relatives. Oh, and having an arsonist set my house on fire while the DC and I were asleep upstairs.
Not my best decade!

30s were great. First baby at 29, second at 32, so very much child rearing, no rubbish job.
20s were fine too, tbh, met my DH, had some great years as childless couple before kids.
40s is where the problems started - older kids more trouble (SEN in one case), mid life crisis due to feeling like I'm worthless on the job market. Hey ho.
Summary - 30s were fine.