How to approach trans chat with DC

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First time OP on this board, but a long term lurker. I’m a regular name changer, but have been here for years. I love this board, and it has really opened my eyes to many things that I was vaguely aware of, but perhaps hadn’t fully realised the full extent and implications of.

I’m after advice on how to approach the subject of transitioning with my young (under 10) DD. I’ve been struggling with how to approach this for some time - really since I was randomly asked by another parent if she identified as a boy. I highly doubt this, she seems happy as a girl and is vocal about being a girl, but basically hates dresses and has the temerity to have short hair, so people assume she must want to be a boy

I really don’t want to drip feed but also am keen to not be too identifying. Basically, how do I tackle this? I want her to know that being trans is not the only option for her, but also am worried that she’ll face abuse and/or pressure to conform particularly as she gets older. How would you approach this?

I think the OP’s had a lot of pretty good advice already - especially about introducing her daughter to other gender nonconforming women so she can see it’s perfectly fine & normal.

I am so glad that I, and then my DD, were both born well before this nonsense started.
I lived in trousers as a child (still do!) like science fiction, detest make up, avoided hairdressers for thirty years, studied science A levels and became a doctor.
DD has v short hair, studied maths and physics at school, had all male friends at primary, did a maths degree, and wears men’s suits to work in a very geeky all male IT dept. Both of us are autistic, and heterosexual women.
If we had been young now, I shudder to think what path of transgender hormones and mutilating surgery we might have been lured into.
I get very angry at the numbers of autistic children being misdiagnosed by places like the Tavistock, despite their own safeguarding head blowing the whistle on them.
I hope you can reassure your DD that she is a normal girl, and has no need to conform with 1950’s sexist stereotypes, OP.
It is so frustrating for my generation of feminists, who thought we had won these battles in the 1970’s, to see gender crap reappearing and kids being forced into pigeonholes or told they are the wrong sex.