My son has just told me that the ex-boyfriend of the woman he loves has now become her Stalker .
She ended that abusive , controlling relationship and he started the stalking immediately . He has accelerated his activity hugely as the months have passed and now that she and my son are in a relationship it's getting even worse .
- hundreds of vile , sexually abusive and threatening texts each day .
- unsolicited items left in her garden , on her car windscreen
- waiting for her (hiding outside her place of work)
- constant attempts to phone.
She is distraught and now living in fear . My son knows about my Stalker , (forty years ago then an attempt to reestablish contact six years ago...stalkers and zombies never stop) so came to talk about it and ask for advice.
So far I have suggested :
Report to the local police first thing tomorrow.
Then book an appointment with a solicitor. (I think the first hour is free) .
Keep/screenshot/record/log every single incident and back-up all
files . Save physical evidence .
Report all to police .
Be careful what goes in the rubbish bins .
All the usual Women Stay Safe stuff (torch , whistle , car check , carry keys in fist etc )
And contact The Suzy Lamplugh Trust .
She and my son will come round later this evening for further discussion and planning ; I will show her the victim impact letter I wrote and sent to my Stalker .
I'm good in a crisis but I am feeling a little shaky at the moment .
Handhold , anyone , please ? And any further advice will be welcome ; there are laws concerning DV , stalking and coercive control nowadays so I'm hoping she'll have firm legal backup .