I really want specialist services for refugees.
I really really wish there would also be the same for disabled and middle aged and older victims.
Disabled victims suffer abuse for longer than non disabled victims, and often more serious abuse. Disability is definitely main reason why I stayed.
It's big additional barriers to leaving and in accessing support. When I first asked for help I was sent back and forth between DA services and adult social care. Kept being told the other would help. I gave up on help and didn't try again for a few years..
Refugees, ethnic minorities, disabled, and older aren't turned away from mainstream services. Its just we have different life experience and needs from other groups. We have extra barriers to leaving and we need specialist services with the expertise and training.
There is no specialist service at all for disabled victims. Nothing for older victims either. It would help so much and make lots of difference in if we leave or not if we have specialised support where there's expertise and experience on our needs and barriers.
Every woman has different experiences of peri and menopause. Sometimes it's bad physically and mentally. Many younger domestic abuse workers don't have understanding of the menopause. It's not their fault as it's often still downplayed by lots of dcotors.
The fatigue, the brain fog, or the days of heavy periods that can make you dizzy or faint. Days where you're not well enough to get out of bed. The extra anxiety when already suffering from trauma and hypervigilance.
It's so much more difficult and distressing going through that in a refuge or when trying to get the right support.
Abusers are often carers for disabled victims. It's much harder to leave physically, mentally, and practically.
The temporary accommodation, refuge, and rehousing options suitable for a young or non disabled victim is not necessarily appropriate for middle aged, older, or disabled victim.
I've lost a lot of hope. I don't think Labour remembered disabled or older women when writing this bill. I don't many people do and lots don't care either. I wish things did change but I don't think they will.