Movie/tv scenes that make you uncomfortable

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I don’t mean in horror or thriller or torture porn but I mean things that are supposed to be funny

Watching a film on Netflix called The Switch

A woman wants to have a baby by sperm donor, throws a getting pregnant party, and the best friend switches his sperm with the real donor.

Supposed to be a way of him covering up his accident of spilling said sperm but to me this just feels uncomfortable. The man made it clear from the start he doesn’t approve of her using a sperm donation and this is a way of him getting his “win”

The Breakfast Club. Judd Nelson's character sexually assaults Molly Ringwald from under the desk (and then they get together later in the film )

I love the film but that scene is horrendous

I turned Clockwork Orange off.

an old one but wrong on so many levels
one of the first 60's Star Trek episodes where the guy is delivering some space age mail order brides with some help from the Enterprise. Of course they are all ultra sexy (complete with poses), and the men (except for Spock) are drooling all over their shoes. They get delivered to the lonely miners on the desolate planet, and it turns out they are taking some kind of pills (the Venus drug) to keep them so sexy. If they don't take them they lose their sexyness. (Cue make-up change). But then in a plot twist, it turns out that the drug is just a placebo, and what makes them so mega-desirable is the confidence they got from the pills... I mean, I was like nine years old watching this, trying to process, if I don't look as hot as them it's because of a personality flaw...

The attempted rape scene in Robin Hood Prince of Thieves. While he’s trying to commit the crime, Alan Rickman’s character comes out with stupid one-liners about needing to concentrate. It jarred horribly.

Crap film all over though.

The TV scenes that make me angry are those where some entitled little prince or princess disrespects parents or adults. Child yells something like "mum there's no hot water" or "Wheres my PE shorts?" etc. It is permitted scenes like this which encourage children to disrespect parents and other adults and to imagine that this kind of behavior is acceptable. There is at least one TV advert of this type. If you show this kind of behavior then you should show the little horrors being chastised for it.

I can still remember the one time I yelled upstairs to my mother in this way - and my father knocked me across the room with his fist. I never did it again!

Miracle on 34th Street. Fond childhood memories of that film. Shared it with my kids last Christmas. Really shocked and sickened by the reaction of the main guy when the woman turns down his marriage proposal. He gets angry at her and points out all the nice things he's done for her as if now she owes him something in return.

Back to future where Biff and the mum are in the car and it he is sexual assaulting her. Holding her down touching her trying kiss her. While she screams for help.

Watching reruns of Frasier right from the beginning, it’s actually pretty good at presenting independent female characters, but there was an episode recently where Roz had a one night stand with Bulldog and then wants nothing to do with him. They pulled out that old rapey trope of enforced kissing, weak slapping and her giving in, which didn’t sit well with me. That always reminds me of High Plains Drifter, as mentioned by a pp, which I saw in my teens and hated.

Too many.

Domestic violence in Carousel and casual treatment of kidnap in Seven Brides before settling into domestic bliss.

www.mcsweeneys.net/articles/seven-brides-for-seven-brothers-an-explainer

Even back in the 60s (?) there was controversy about the rapes in the original TV Poldark and Fortsyte Saga

Too many of the romcoms that humorously included the woman being spanked for some transgression or other.

mainstreamspanking.wordpress.com/2019/05/14/more-billboards/

I didn't see much television when I was young because it wasn't subtitled. I've recently seen some TV classics that people rave about and find them unwatchable because of the casual or aggressive sexism.

I will not have a word said against The Big Bang Theory.

Thinking of ones with kids, there was an Idris Elba show called Turn It Up Charlie that I enjoyed at the beginning, but made me more and more uncomfortable toward the end. The parents in the show were supposed to be kind of neglecting their child, that was the set-up, and the Idris Elba character befriends her. So that didn't bother me so much.

But as it went on, it really seemed increasingly like she was just being left to fend for herself in these rather questionable situations, while everyone else pursued their careers or had sex and got high. There was an element of the "precocious child" where I think the viewer was supposed to see her as becoming more resilient and adult and think this was good, but I just kept thinking how screwed up she would be.

I don't usually find things that are either meant to be serious and bad, like an assault, that uncomfortable as such. Though there are some exceptions, the movie The Sweet Hereafter for example really bothered me enough that I couldn't ever watch it again though it's a very good film. In the story, you discover in the beginning that the father is having an incestuous relationship with his teenage daughter. Shortly after there is a terrible school bus accident and several children are killed, and the daughter becomes paralysed from the waist down. The main part of the story involves a lawyer who comes to the rural area to convince the parents to sue - he's especially interested in the daughter as they can claim a lot of damages for her care. Her parents are keen, but while it's never mentioned openly a huge part of the drama is that the father can barely look at the daughter any more and retreats into being fatherly and pretends as if nothing had been going on, and she is furiously angry.

Stupid comedies I generally can't take the premises seriously and I don't think the audience is meant to. It's just a set up for what happens afterwards. They don't make me uncomfortable but I also don't find them funny.

Too many of the romcoms that humorously included the woman being spanked for some transgression or other.

Oh, they did this in Outlander, and it just didn't work, it was pretending to be about a cultural clash but was too obviously about a little sexy interlude. Maybe it worked in the books I guess but they just shouldn't have done it in the show.

This scene in Star Wars Empire Strikes Back.

[Leia struggles with a part on the Falcon. Han moves in to help, but is pushed away.]

Han Solo: Hey, Your Worship, I'm only trying to help.

Princess Leia Organa: Would you please stop calling me that?

Han Solo: Sure, Leia.

Princess Leia Organa: You make it so difficult sometimes.

Han Solo: I do, I really do. You could be a little nicer, though. Come on, admit it. Sometimes you think I'm alright.

Princess Leia Organa: Occasionally, maybe... when you aren't acting like a scoundrel.

Han Solo: Scoundrel? Scoundrel? I like the sound of that. [Grabs and rubs Leia's hand]

Princess Leia Organa: Stop that.

Han Solo: Stop what?

Princess Leia Organa: [timidly] Stop that! My hands are dirty.

Han Solo: My hands are dirty too. What are you afraid of?

Princess Leia Organa: Afraid?

Han Solo: You're trembling.

Princess Leia Organa: I'm not trembling.

Han Solo: [moving closer to Leia] You like me because I'm a scoundrel. There aren't enough scoundrels in your life.

Princess Leia Organa: I happen to like nice men.

Han Solo: [moving closer still] I'm a nice man.

Princess Leia Organa: No you're not. You're—

[Han begins to kiss Leia]

C-3PO: [interrupting] Sir! Sir! I've isolated the reverse power flux coupling!

Han Solo: [annoyed] Thank you! Thank you very much!

C-3PO: Oh, you're perfectly welcome, sir.

[Leia walks away.]

Anything where there's a serious age gap between romantically-involved male and female leads. The Wolverine was just gross. Tao Okamoto looked like a teenager. The Spy Next Door is the same. Jackie Chan as Amber Valleto's boyfriend They get married at the end of the film and the kids is an 'ew, creepy old man' moment.

*kiss

Recently, I turned off The Wrong Missy (netflix) because the male protagonist wakes up on the plane with Missy's hand down his trousers.
I mean, she's sexually assaulting him and it's played for lols. Hard yuck on that, thanks Hollywood.

Rocky always bothered me but was a mainstay on TV due to my brother and father both loving the series.

The "romance" in that movie is just.. yeah no.

Fantasy detective series Grimm. The protagonist is played as a hero, and the good guy. At one point he ends up imbued with extra speed/strength. He's out for a run, in the dark, in a relatively remote area, and realises he can run faster than his usual. There is a woman up ahead. He starts running faster, pounding along behind her. She speeds up, tried to speed up more, looking behind her, scared. He goes faster, she goes faster, then he overtakes. She looks terrified, then he's past her and gone. Presumably we're meant to think how silly she is for fearing our gallant hero. But actually it made me think the protagonist was a totally selfish prick. Stopped watching the series.

Saturday Night Fever has some very dodgy bits. But also some great music.

Any film based on true stories of abuse children. They always seem to way overstep the boundries to the point where filming must basically constitute child abuse too.

Sorry just read uts meant to ve based in whats meant to be funny ( stupid ads making screens jumpy)

Although same kinda applies. There seem to be alot of lines kids seem to get in movies that are probably a bit iffy. There was one film can't remember the name of it but involved a family, at breakfast the parents were all " why didn't you come and get us " ( the parents had been "at it " ) and the kid replied " I didn't disturb you I wanted a brother or sister " u wouldn't expect a kid that young to come out with that .

Pretty much all of Dirty Dancing. I remember telling my friends as a teenager back in the 1990s that it wasn’t romantic, it was creepy!! But I was on my own with that opinion at the time...

This Means War.
Really uncomfortable scenes of a group of men watching their colleague bedding a woman and recording it.

...played for laughs

@Biscuitsanddoombar

So many things in The Big Bang theory but my special 🙄🙄🙄 is reserved for the fact that throughout the show, Penny was one of the few mainstream female tv characters who was able to voice consistently that she didn’t want children (even though there were multiple scenes of Bernadette being a cow ti her about it) and then lo and behold in the final episode Leonard who really really did want children ‘forgot’ to use a condom and penny is pregnant. FFS on so many levels!!!!!

This.