Well there’s how I raise my son, would be a big one. The key is to teach him to manage his emotions in a healthy way, and not suppress them so I make it more about what behaviours are unacceptable.
Where we go wrong as a culture is we pretty much let boys get away with more bad action “boys will be boys”, whilst simultaneously teaching them to ruthlessly suppress a lot of emotion. This is entirely the wrong way around if you want to produce a psychologically healthy and integrated man by the end of childhood.
I generally challenge toxic male stereotypes around other men, although honestly less so these days, as most of my closer male friends tend to have shared values for the most part.
Although it was quite a few years ago now I’ve also been willing to physically step in. This one occasion a woman screamed one night and I rushed to assist and there was a man attempting to drag her off the street, so I intervened and chased him off. Luckily he hadn’t had the opportunity to do anything too horrendous, but it was a fucking scary encounter. I’m not sure I’d do it again as I’m a father now, in far less good shape, but maybe I would I don’t know.
The question is all about how we deal with our aggression. I remember having a lot of anger in my late teens and as a young man. However I also nurtured a lot of what I suppose are erroneously perceived of as feminine traits such as empathy/compassion. I found those provided the motivation to behave differently.
It’s a big problem, if not the biggest we face as a society.