@sagaLoren
totally agree.
This is slightly off on a tangent, but smacks of the same thing.
I have a close friend who was diagnosed with PCOS many moons ago. She was told in no uncertain terms that because of the state of her ovaries, chances of her conceiving were practically nil. She and her husband habitually used condoms anyway, as neither of them had any wish to be parents anyway. Shortly before her 40th birthday she found out she was pregnant. She did not want to continue the pregnancy, but met with all the same 'are you sure' type questions in the run up to the termination. Afterwards, she was basically taken into a room and given a dressing down for getting pregnant in the first place, then told in no uncertain terms that she wouldn't be leaving the premises without organising some form of contraception. She's no shrinking violet, but genuinely felt bullied and intimidated, so just played along. She explained that hubby was actually on the waiting list for a vasectomy, and while this was met with approval, the issue still wasn't resolved as far as the staff were concerned, so she was booked in to have a coil fitted. Coil was never inserted properly, gave her all sorts of pain and discomfort, her weight ballooned in the space of the two months it was in, her periods went haywire, and she's never been the same since.
It's the belligerence, the shaming for having the temerity to have an unwanted and unwelcome pregnancy, and the railroading to a form of contraception that she had never been comfortable with, even though her husband had taken practical steps to avoid conception himself, and she had previously been told she was practically infertile anyway. So much for pastoral care and empathy.