I wonder what explanation your friends give for accusing you of being transphobic?
Do you feel like you are transphobic?
As pps say, question the mantras
Q. Can human beings change sex?
A.No
Q. Are trans people the most marginalised and maligned people in society?
A. There is major trans policy influence over every public service organisation- the BBC, police, NHS, local authorities, most government depts, schools, CPS, many sporting regulatory bodies, many children’s charities, Girl Guides, EHRC, Scottish government, Welsh government, many newspapers and media outlets, 850 uk major employers etc.
Most of the policies put in place have ignored basic procedure such as proper Equalities Impact Assessments to consider how others, like women, are affected by fundamental policy changes.
Any request to even discuss the impacts of such policy changes are shut down and peoples jobs are threatened. Basic safeguarding procedures are being ignored. Draw your own conclusions as to the power currently held by people advocating for trans people.
Q. Given that there is an obvious conflict in rights, should we sit down and discuss it openly?
A. Women - yes please. Gender activists - #nodebate.
Q. How do many transsexuals (their explicit choice of terminology) feel about the situation?
A. Many high (and low) profile transsexuals are very clear that they were born male (hence their transition journey - a huge life challenge), they don’t need access to women’s single sex facilities because they don’t feel in danger and are actually campaigning on the side of women’s rights.
We have no evidence that transwomen are in any more danger in the men’s facility than any other vulnerable male group (like teen boys etc) and thankfully zero trans people were murdered in the uk since 2018 (compared with approx 200 women every single year)
This is all evidenced and rechecked - but do check for yourself.