Contraception

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I want to come off the pill as my partner and I rarely have sex. Do I need to ask his permission? He might not want to use a condom if we do have sex eventually.

Thanks all. He also has "issues" due to spinal surgery it's not easy. He's only in his 40's

You aren't necessarily going to get more time by giving up breastfeeding though.

I think you need to have a think about what you want. Yes the pill isn't fir everyone. If you want to get back to having an.intimit relationship and are worried the pill is affecting that, then there's no harm.coming off it provided of course you use other contraception. But, you will also need to decide if not being on the pill is something you are comfortable with, as in can u trust and do you trust your partner to use condoms. And if you are happy with any change in risk factor ( condoms are obviously very effective but sone like to double up on the pill ajd condoms and of course you need to ve happy and confident in your choice)

If you want to give up breastfeeding because it feels like the right choice to you that of course is fine.

But I do think you sound a little like you are pinning hopes on things that won't necessarily solve any thing and are considering forcing yourself to have sex.

Your partner understands which is great but either way the choices you make should be because they are right fir you. Not because they may solve an issue that isn't actually something you feel you want to do at the moment anyway.

@Whatwouldscullydo You're right. Condoms not a long term solution. He has said he is happy to enquire about vasectomy.

Because another pregnancy I would have to terminate.

What combination of contraception would make you comfortable I do believe with vasectomy u still need a back up.

It all depends what the issues are really. A lack of time is not going to he solved by stopping breastfeeding or changing contraception. And unless you are confident in your contraception choice you aren't going to want or enjoy sex anyway.

If you don't even have time for non-sexual intimacy, it sounds as though sex and contraception are rather theoretical at the moment anyway.

@Whatwouldscullydo I think a vasectomy is pretty reliable? Also I'm old re fertility at 40 too.

Pregnancy wise yes, but u need a back up for a few weeks until tests are done to determine if it worked.

Sti wise no. But that's same as anything besides condoms obviously.

It all comes down to what you trust ajd what makes you comfortable and of course if your dp wants one. They might not agree to it.

Hi OP. If you're bf an 8 month year old, it is likely that you are not ovulating, and if that's so - that would probably explain your lack of interest in sex. When ovulation returns, so will your sex drive - or at least, it did for me. Bf suppresses ovulation, but as baby eats more food and consumes less breast milk, ovulation often returns even if some bf continues. For me, that happened around 9 or 10 months I think. Periods and sex drive both switched back on overnight, even though I carried on bf until the babes were two.

@Whatwouldscullydo STI's not a consideration as my fiancé and I only have sex with each other (well, infrequently now we have our baby!)

I know from a pregnancy pov there is a certain time you have to wait before it's effective.

I'm pretty sure I'm not ovulating as no periods. Woohooooo!