Non molestation order

11 replies

Ei666 · 21/01/2021 10:20

Hi, my new partner has a non molestation order on him, where by he is not allowed to contact his ex or daughter (17) for a year, this has been In place for 2 months, since then, his ex has tried to contact him via phone call, text and email, is she allowed to do this? He has not responded to any of these ... TIA

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ArabellaScott · 21/01/2021 10:37

OP, I don't know if this is the most suitable forum to ask this question. I think 'legal matters' might be more useful for you.

OldFolksTalkinBoutBackinMyDay2 · 21/01/2021 10:56

Placemarking obviously.

PlantMam · 21/01/2021 13:23

He will have been served official paperwork by the court.
All relevant info will be on there, along with a nominated local police station, which is his contact point. He should get in touch with them and seek specific, relevant advice, rather than random comments from Mumsnetters.

Seeing as you posted this on the Feminism and Women’s Rights board, I’m going to take the opportunity to point out that starting a new relationship with a man with a known history of domestic abuse seems a bit, well, unwise, to say the least.
We pick shit men for all sorts of reasons, often to do with emotional baggage we’ve been hauling around for years. Would you consider taking a look at the Freedom Programme? It’s life changing for lots of women.
freedomprogramme.co.uk/

There are lots of men out there (and equally, you’d be just fine without a man at all) so there is need to pick an abusive arsehole - you deserve more than that.

Good luck!

CostaDelCovid · 21/01/2021 13:26

OP, I had to get one of those on my ex. PLEASE PLEASE PLEEEEEASE don't believe his version of events. They do NOTTTTTTTT hand those it easily

CostaDelCovid · 21/01/2021 13:26

*out

Pebbledashery · 21/01/2021 13:26

She can contact him. She's not breaching the non molestation order as it's there for her protection.. She's probably trying to get him in trouble though which won't be looked on favourably by the courts if he's contesting it. I've had one against my ex for some months now and not contacted him since the day i left him.

Pebbledashery · 21/01/2021 13:27

Also.. I have to say this.. But given I know what a non molestation order is served for.. I'd run a mile if I knew a potential new partner had one. Have you thought about getting a Clares Law disclosure?

TirisfalPumpkin · 21/01/2021 14:48

As pps say, OP, this is not so much a red flag as an entire scarlet bunting festival. Please be careful and look after yourself.

Scout2016 · 21/01/2021 15:23

As PPs have said, these orders are not easy to obtain, there must have been sid reasons. It was only made 2 months ago - that is not long enough for your partner to have significantly changed. As suggested, do a Claire's Law disclosure.
The fact he has been prevented from seeing his own daughter is a massive red flag.

Scout2016 · 21/01/2021 15:23

*Good reasons

SorryPleaseTryAgain · 21/01/2021 15:42

There is no restriction on her contacting him, but it undermines the order in the eyes of the court if she was to then accuse him of breaking the order for responding to her calls/texts/emails. Without knowing what she has written to him in the texts/emails it is hard to say if she has a good reason for trying to contact him.

As others have said, it's not an easy process getting these orders, I had one against my ex in the past (for very good reasons) and it was incredibly stressful and draining to get it put in place, I would not have done it if I didn't feel I really needed it to protect myself. Of course I don't know the circumstances with your partner but it is definitely a massive red flag. I would never date someone with a non molestation order against by an ex, let alone by their own child.

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