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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Template for letter about Stonewall in schools

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Glinner · 17/01/2021 17:51

Following Stonewall’s announcement that they are launching a new School and College Champion Awards programme next month, now is a good time to write (or re-write) to your MP, Councillors and Regional School Commissioner about the ethical and potential legal implications of Stonewall infiltrating education settings. Here is a template you can amend as necessary and send:

Dear xxx

I’m writing to raise my concerns with regards to Stonewall’s involvement with schools and colleges. These concerns can be summarised as follows:

1.     Stonewall’s school resources contravene the Department of Education’s guidance with regards to relationships, sex and health.

2.     Stonewall’s school resources misinterpret the Equality Act with regards to the protected characteristics of “gender reassignment” and “sex”.

Stonewall has recently announced a new award system for its school and college members, which will launch next month. Members of the School and College Champion scheme will be encouraged to complete an application, which will be graded as bronze, silver, or gold.

Although the criteria for the different levels of these new awards is not available for the public to view, Stonewall has published “An Introduction to Supporting LGBT Children and Young People - a guide for schools, colleges and settings”, which provides an idea of the type of evidence schools will be required to submit.

It does not appear that this document has been updated since the Department of Education (D of E) changed its guidance on teaching the relationships, sex and health curriculum and, as such, there are many areas of Stonewall’s introductory schools document which contradicts this guidance and therefore should not be being used in education settings.

As a reminder, the D of E guidance states the following:

“We are aware that topics involving gender and biological sex can be complex and sensitive matters to navigate. You should not reinforce harmful stereotypes, for instance by suggesting that children might be a different gender based on their personality and interests, or the clothes they prefer to wear. Resources used in teaching about this topic must always be age-appropriate and evidence based. Materials which suggest that non-conformity to gender stereotypes should be seen as synonymous with having a different gender identity should not be used and you should not work with external agencies or organisations that produce such material. While teachers should not suggest to a child that their non-compliance with gender stereotypes means that either their personality or their body is wrong and in need of changing, teachers should always seek to treat individual students with sympathy and support.

You should work together with parents on any decisions regarding your school’s treatment of their child, in line with the school’s safeguarding policy and the statutory guidance on working together to safeguard children.”

Despite this guidance, the following sections remain in Stonewall’s resource for schools, “An Introduction to Supporting LGBT Children and Young People:

“A trans child may say ‘I feel like a girl’ or ‘I don’t feel like a boy’ rather than using the word ‘trans’. They may come to school wearing clothes not typically associated with their assigned sex.”

“Often a child or young person’s words or actions are automatically attributed to their SEND (sic: special educational needs and disabilities) without considerations of other factors, such as their orientation or gender identity. This might include: preferences for clothing types or hair length being seen as a sensory need; fear of change at puberty; behaviours described as a new special interest, fascination, curiosity or phase.”

“When they are born, babies are labelled as a boy or a girl. When some people get older, they realise that the label they were given was wrong. They might say ‘I’m actually a girl’, ‘I’m actually a boy’ or ‘I’m not a boy or a girl’.”

“Use these discussions as a starting point to explore the different ways we express our gender (for example through our clothes, hair, or the way we walk), what ‘gender identity’ means and that not everyone identifies as a boy or a girl.”

“Only discuss a child or young person’s identity with their parents or carers with the child or young person’s permission.”

“Regardless of their age, a person’s status as trans is private. Schools and colleges should not disclose information – such as details about a transition – that could reveal somebody’s trans status to others, including parents or carers, staff, and anyone outside the school, college or setting.”

Whilst the above should be reason enough to exclude Stonewall from education settings, there are many other aspects of the document which raise alarm bells. For example, they advise that not only should a “trans child” be able to choose which toilets and changing rooms they would like to use, but also which residential or boarding accommodation:

“It is important to ask a trans child or young person which facilities they would feel most comfortable using. Schools, colleges and settings should ensure that a trans child or young person is supported to use the toilets and changing rooms they feel most comfortable with, including the facilities matching their gender.”

“Ensure that trans children and young people are able to access residential or boarding accommodation they feel most comfortable in, which could be accommodation aligned with their gender identity, or gender-neutral or private space. Make sure that residential or boarding staff attend the same training on trans inclusion as classroom-based staff.”

This does not take into consideration the Single Sex Exemptions section of the Equality Act, nor is there any mention of the impact this will have on girls. This is despite numerous media articles already having reported the negative effects girls encounter when toilets are mixed-sex, particularly those going through puberty and starting their periods. Girls have expressed they feel uncomfortable, are less happy at school, and are even refusing to drink whilst at school to minimise the times they will need to use the facilities.

According to Stonewall, the only prerequisite for a child to be classed as “trans”, is for them to say they are. The above guidance leaves schools’ policies wide open to be taken advantage of, and it is girls who will pay the price.

Why is girls’ privacy, dignity and safety seen as less important than the validation of a trans-identified child?

Who will be held responsible when a girl is sexually assaulted by a boy who claims a trans identity to gain access to single sex spaces where girls are changing or sleeping?

To conclude, Stonewall is not only promoting harmful misinformation to young children by reinforcing gender stereotypes and the “born in the wrong body” narrative, but is misrepresenting the Equality Act and wrongly informing schools they are breaking the law if they do not allow “trans children” to choose which facilities they use. This very clearly removes the right to privacy for girls, and is teaching them to allow their boundaries to be violated without their consent. A different approach, which has been agreed in conjunction with lawyers, teachers, and child protection welfare professionals can be found on the Transgender Trend website. Unlike Stonewall’s resources, which promote an unscientific approach which has been demonstrated to increase persistence of gender dysphoria in children, Transgender Trend’s resources are based on science, evidence, and a “watchful waiting” approach.

For councillors and the commissioners: Stonewall should be stopped from working in schools. Please advise what steps you will take to remove Stonewall and its programmes from education settings, because its resources explicitly contradict the Department’s requirements, and its stance on transgender inclusion undermines the rights of girls.

OR

For MPs: Stonewall should be stopped from working in schools. Please ask the Secretary of State what steps he will take to remove Stonewall and its programmes from education settings, because its resources explicitly contradict the Department’s requirements, and its stance on transgender inclusion undermines the rights of girls.

Yours sincerely / faithfully

xxx

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SunsetBeetch · 17/01/2021 18:26

Thanks Glinner! Willl definitely be doing this.

YouSetTheTone · 17/01/2021 18:39

Thank you very much for these templates. I will do this. Can I just check - do you suggest that the first one be sent to schools and the latter to MPs or that either can be sent to MPs? Sorry to be a bit dim.

SirSamuelVimes · 17/01/2021 18:44

Thanks, that is great.

Opheliaa · 17/01/2021 18:53

Thanks Glinner 👍

Glinner · 17/01/2021 19:22

The letter was intended for MPs, local Councillors and Regional School Commissioners (looks like there’s one per region.) The only section which will differ depending on who you’re sending it to is the final paragraph. We'll start working on one for schools too.

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Opheliaa · 17/01/2021 19:23

Fab.

YouSetTheTone · 17/01/2021 19:26

@Glinner thank you for clarifying. Will be very interested in my MP’s response.

Mumofgirlswholiketoplaywithmud · 17/01/2021 20:16

Are stonewall just trolling us now?!?

"This might include: preferences for clothing types or hair length being seen as a sensory need; fear of change at puberty"

They are suggesting these things should be first thought of as a sign of being trans... Fear of change at puberty?!? That is the vast majority of children- no? These guys are such Angry

Ps. Thanks Glinner! Star

gardenbird48 · 17/01/2021 22:03

just come back to civilisation from twitter where I saw this - great letter thanks, am on it with my MP.

Interestingly, I tried to check the link to the Stonewall resources (I do always double check something I am putting my name to) and the website seems to be inaccessible. Long may it last.

nothingcomestonothing · 17/01/2021 22:05

Done, gave it a few tweaks so my arrogant arse of an MP can't class it as a mass campaigning email and bin it as per his official policy Hmm

highame · 18/01/2021 09:06

I'm tweaking too, and reducing. My MP has the attention span of a knat

gardenbird48 · 18/01/2021 09:14

I sent the link to the Stonewall schools guidance and highlighted rhumb pages were the issue.

It occurred to me that we are indirectly paying for the schools to pay Stonewall as well as the direct government grants using taxpayers money they receive and then we are also having to pay for legal cases to remove Stonewall’s false information being trained into everywhere.
It is properly taking the m.i.c.h.a.e.l.

gardenbird48 · 18/01/2021 09:39

which !!

I swear my fingers are getting fatter.

TheFleegleHasLanded · 18/01/2021 10:18

An excellent idea, however this only applies for England. See regional women's groups for more information if you are in NI, Scotland, or Wales.

YouSetTheTone · 18/01/2021 11:41

op I've tweaked to make it more personal and sent to my MP. I'll update on the response if of interest.

Looking forward to the one to send to schools and am very grateful that you are providing these templates.

Mollyollydolly · 18/01/2021 14:00

Thanks for the template which I will amend to make more personal. Makes it so much easier when you have something to work from. My MP wont take any notice (RLB) I will however, CC in Starmer and whoever their Shadow Education person is too.

Mollyollydolly · 18/01/2021 14:36

Done .. also emailed Liz Truss, Shadow Education Minister, Dept of Education and the National School Commissioner. Spreading the love!

dyslek · 18/01/2021 15:13

hmm, am I the only one here that thinks a 'bronze' 'silver' or 'gold' grade will depend on nothing more than how much cash the already strapped for cash school is conned in to handing over?

highame · 18/01/2021 15:57

Have just received a good one from The Baroness. It appears that everyone is on to this

JoodyBlue · 18/01/2021 16:52

Just emailed my MP and was about to suggest contacting the Baroness. She is, as always, on the ball.

Mollyollydolly · 18/01/2021 21:43

Here's a twitter link to Emma's letter. She writes a bloody good letter.
twitter.com/Baroness_Nichol/status/1351265455248445448

OvaHere · 18/01/2021 23:27

Was there a thread on here when this announcement was first made?

Nyx77 · 18/01/2021 23:55

Omfg I’m crying 😂😂
What’s bronze grade? Kissing someone of the same gender?
Do you have to fully transition to get gold or is it okay to just have gay sex a few times?

I’m really starting to see why Stonewall needs to “infiltrate” these schools

Mumofgirlswholiketoplaywithmud · 19/01/2021 07:34

@dyslek

hmm, am I the only one here that thinks a 'bronze' 'silver' or 'gold' grade will depend on nothing more than how much cash the already strapped for cash school is conned in to handing over?
Yes. Or for ensuring that no sporting or academic positions are allowed to be available for just girls.

Why do schools have to pay for some lobby group else to come? what is this about? Am I missing what added extra stonewall provides. Why can't they just teach: "everyone is different, people are attracted to different people, people have different ways of expressing themselves and people's families all look different. Don't bully people for being different. Treat people with respect and dignity". What am I missing?

persistentwoman · 19/01/2021 08:07

One useful thing to ask schools is whether they are devoting the same time, resources and £££ to the other key protected characteristics, especially disability, race, religion or belief and sex? What school level data do they have to confirm that it is "LGBTQ children" rather than other groups who are are struggling with their attainment, inclusion, being bullied etc? Ask what is their evidence?
Ask them for specific examples of what the school are doing to address disableism, disparities in attainment, inclusion & bullying of children with SEN, the sexes and different racial groups etc.

Make them think about what the children's needs are and whether the school funding the Stonewall gravy train is what will address underachievement, inclusion, emotional wellbeing, bullying etc of children in their school.