Alexandra Heminsley in The Guardian

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https://www.theguardian.com/society/2021/jan/02/from-now-on-i-was-in-an-lgbtq-family-my-husband-came-out-as-trans-while-i-was-on-maternity-leave?CMP=ShareiOSAppp_Other

I read this and felt increasingly sorry for how lost she sounds. Desperately trying to come to terms with her situation, while pandering to her ex-husband's whims. As ever it seems that he is the one who gets all the sympathy, is "stunning and brave" and she is left to pick up the pieces.
She seems to be trying very hard to convince herself that this is all ok.

I read it and felt for her. I'm really cycnical, but to me he waited till he had his baby before coming out so he could say he was a woman with a baby. Would the same thing happen if Alexandra not had the baby?

I could get even more cynical and point to well known patterns of behaviour that involve escalation at a time when the family group is under stress or vulnerable, and a female partner is least able to leave, or to rock the boat.

I found it really disturbing that she takes 'hope' and comfort in the fact he left her because of his narcissistic desires, not because she was 'fat'.

Other, lesser women have husbands who leave them because they are fat, but Alexandra is better than that.

How did we come to a place as a society where the Guardian thinks it's cool to publish this kind of woman-hating drivel?

"But somewhere in there, already, a glistening shard of hope.

None of this was my fault.

The distance between us had never been to do with my not having lost weight fast enough"

I am also cynical and thought: Oh dear. She has just had a baby. How can you make this situation All About You? Such narcissistic behaviour.

At least she had the wit to separate from her husband so she doesn't have to deal with it all everyday.

Link to the other thread about this.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/womens_rights/4123411-From-now-on-I-was-in-an-LGBTQ-family-my-husband-came-out-as-trans-while-I-was-on-maternity-leave