TheShadowyFeminist - good post!
I wonder how many MtF people really do “pass”, to the extent that anyone meeting them for the first time post-transition would not have a clue?
It’s fine when people are open about it, so everyone knows the score, but it’s really uncomfortable when someone seems to think that if they don’t mention it then no one will know. It’s like being in the presence of a really bad con artist - not because they are trans but because they don’t acknowledge it.
I was on a job interview panel when one of the applicants was, on paper, female but honestly looked like Les Dawson’s “gossipy wife” character with manly voice to match. Possibly a pleasant enough person but way more anxious than justifiable even for a job interview.
The job was a new post with a well-established all-female team. The best candidate was male and was appointed, although the panel all had reservations about the impact on team dynamics and practical arrangements in the workplace. As we were not supposed to know about the “trans status” of the other candidate mentioned, ie. their male sex, this could not be discussed, eg. in terms of team dynamics, access to team toilet, changing and shower facilities.
Things would have been, and would be, so much better if the GRA 2004 did not promote the idea that being trans is at the same time something shameful and unmentionable and also something so discreet and undetectable that you wouldn’t know someone is trans unless you were told. It is farcical and unhelpful to everyone involved.