'Not to be argumentative, but I know a lot about this as I've researched it for several years, read loads of research docs and spoken to literally dozens of people about this on dedicated forums - people on both NHS/private treatment, and also lots of hormone specialists'
Not to be argumentative, but...!
So you've researched it a lot then gone private.
That's fine.
I am telling you. That DH got bloods done on the NHS for something else. About 5 years ago. They said testosterone through the floor. They sent him to a specialist. He had a gel. Which didn't sort it bloods wise. Now he gets an injection. All through NHS. And going back 5 years or so.
Have you looked into other reasons for lack of drive? I'm being genuine here. DH, his behaviour hasn't changed pre/ post therapy. I'm not convinced that it wasn't normal for him. Nor is he.
So. In short. Don't think of this therapy as a fix all? Loads of people are a bit miserable. Think life is a bit shit. Testosterone may seem like a magic bullet. But. Is that the real problem?
Have you tried, I dunno. Counselling?
Some men aren't that highly sexed, and that's ok, no matter what the stereotypes say.
I don't think DH has ever had a ONS. He wouldn't like that. Have you had trouble in established relationships.
Some men aren't hot dogs. And that's fine.
Having said that if you are getting better with this that's great.
But the idea that the NHS only give testosterone therapy to cancer survivors and the other stuff you you've said. Is simply not true. I know this first hand.
If it's 5 years he would have been 36.