He's also missed that there is no reciprocation within this.
In order for someone male to be able to do this, their belief that for them, their personal sense of 'woman' is something other than physical body and is about respecting instead a person's self stated inner sense of self and identity, and own choice of words for themselves, is intended to be of importance and value to everyone as a progressive, accepting society.
A female person however, sharing their belief in return that for them, their personal sense of 'woman' is entirely their physical body and nothing else as otherwise this is limiting them within stereotypes, and that they too wish to have their personal sense of identity and choice of words for themselves (adult human female, woman, biological female) respected..... is termed as 'hate'.
There cannot be equality in this; women cannot have the same choice, freedom of expression, sense of self and stated concepts. That equality apparently cannot coexist. There must instead be a division of people into the group who may name themselves, who may select their own sense of self and identity and have this respected and their boundaries honoured - and the group who will be named whether or not they agree or like it, who may not select for themselves, and are threatened for showing boundaries of their own.
Whether or not it is a comfortable truth: the group who are expected to respect and nurture others to their own detriment are the sex class to whom this oppressive stereotyping based on sex has always fallen.