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Laura Bates & Everyday Misogyny

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HappenedXo · 03/09/2020 10:40

There’s an article by Laura Bates in the Daily Mail today. In it she bewails the fact that when she goes to talk in schools, teenage boys are increasingly misogynistic and disbelieving. She puts this down to online radicalisation in terms of exposure to incels, MRAs, gaming, etc (which I agree with, as far as it goes).

What has left me so annoyed, though, is that she utterly fails to recognise that the TWAW mantra is part of this. Women, actual women, have been marginalised. We’re called uterus havers & people who menstruate. Our fears of male violence are belittled and sneered at. Our wish for the dignity & privacy of single sex spaces has been labelled ‘transphobic’. We’re shouted down when we try to discuss our concerns. This forum even is patrolled by people who want to stop us discussing women’s safety and dignity & privacy & the need for single sex spaces.

And as far as I know Everyday Sexism has been entirely on board with this roll back of rights! It has consistently supported the idea that biological males are women, in some mysterious unbiological way, and need the support of feminism. Which brings with it all the issues outlined above. Loss of privacy dignity & safety. Loss of our role as women. Loss of freedom to argue for our rights. Men in women’s prisons & sports. Inability to measure the sexual pay gap. Inability to measure male rates of sexual assault. Loss of feminism as a woman focused movement.

The TWAW mantra is part of exactly the rising misogyny Laura describes in her article. Not just a part- it’s a huge, integral part. A fundamental undermining of the concept of ‘woman’ on which so many of our rights depend. It’s both a symptom and a cause of misogyny and the MRA movement. And yet she’s utterly blind to it. She can’t see the misogyny, and the threat to women, in a movement she has supported. Why?

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HopeClearwater · 04/09/2020 00:00

@SpaceOP Many thanks for the link to that excellent Trevor Noah piece.

QuentinWinters · 04/09/2020 08:34

Yes, thanks space it was excellent

RoyalCorgi · 04/09/2020 08:44

Signalbox - Laura Bates might not be as aggressive in her views as Everyday Feminism, but she is still pro-trans:

exposure.org.uk/2018/04/everyday-sexism-project-founder-talks-about-her-powerful-platform-for-equality/

" I have always felt strongly that it is paramount to include trans women and other marginalised groups within feminist activism."

Kit19 · 04/09/2020 08:47

“I have always felt strongly that it was important to include men and other marginalised groups in feminist activism”

Signalbox · 04/09/2020 09:02

Laura Bates might not be as aggressive in her views as Everyday Feminism, but she is still pro-trans

LB does appear to believe that TWAW but the Everyday Sexism Project is Just a catalogue of women’s stories. It doesn’t promote the TWAW narrative (as far as I can see). That’s why I am wondering if op is thinking of Everyday Feminism when she says...

“And as far as I know Everyday Sexism has been entirely on board with this roll back of rights! It has consistently supported the idea that biological males are women, in some mysterious unbiological way“

SpaceOP · 04/09/2020 09:59

@HopeClearwater @QuentinWinters Any time. I review that every now and again and use the arguments a LOT. DH, who is absolutely on board as a feminist ally, is nonetheless still a white man. And sometimes, he finds himself asking these questions. Trevor's arguments helped a lot with that and he's now completely internalised the ridiculousness of it. I think with a lot of these issues, most of us can't help our instinctive agreement when someone says something like, "men can so easily be accused of sexual misconduct" and we need someone to really clearly and calmly unpick it. In the context of false sexual assault allegations, Trevor 100% completely nailed it.

QuentinWinters · 04/09/2020 12:08

I shared it with DP and he's shared it with male friends now. Its really good at dispassionately picking the "victimhood" narrative apart and I like the fact he uses a less acceptable victimhood of white people in South Africa Post apartheid (in the Liberal west) as an illustration of the problems women and #metoo face. I think that gives a bit of distance for most western men and allows them to digest what he says.
Very clever piece.

SunsetBeetch · 07/09/2020 17:59

@RaelImperialAerosolKid

It's not just boys who have a distorted view of women though - it's a problem for our girls. Watching Avengers for example and seeing Black Widow fighting gives them a false sense of security over what is achievable. In lock down we had a family PE session and even the mention of 'girl' pushups gave DD an absolute rage. I was proud that she believed in absolute equality- but it did make me wonder if I've been giving her the right messages.
I've had a couple of young women on twitter tell me it's "sexist" to say men are stronger than women. Perhaps this is one reason why they are not as concerned with their personal safety and need for women only spaces?
Antibles · 08/09/2020 00:25

I think porn may have a massive impact on young men's attitudes towards women. I mean honestly, how can it not? I don't know the half of what's out there but I imagine seeing dead-eyed women being fucked in every orifice, physically and verbally abused; their deliberate degradation presented as a turn on for you, that has to colour your attitude to women. How can one of these creatures, of the kind who accepts your dick up her arse, your cum on her face, be qualified to tell you, a male, what to do, what to think?

I think many (straight) men have always had a problem with respect for the type of person who is penetrated. The hideously disrespectful variations on this now available via porn just make things ten times worse. It undermines every message the non-porn world tries to send about male-female equality (not a coincidence).

No surprise if Laura has trouble getting respect from teenage boys and young men. Just imagine what they've seen and what they're thinking about when they look at females these days. I'm amazed some turn out as pleasant as they do.

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