I recently came across this discussion between two women that I've noticed on Twitter - Kathleen Stock @Docstockk and Helen Pluckrose @HPluckrose
Rather than being extremely shouty it was, I felt, a reasoned debate between two women who seem to be very much in the middle ground (although, from my reading, perhaps veering slightly more to the gender critical side of things).
In any event, I've certainly taken some points from here to use in debates in a very non-confrontational way:-
On Gender Critical Feminism & Trans Activism