Are there experiences that make a woman real, anyway? Periods? Giving birth? Many women don’t experience the latter, some don’t experience the former.
Argh!
Most women have periods at some point in their life. If a woman gets to her 40s and has never had a period then there will be a specific reason for that which will have required fairly invasive medical investigation, probably heartache somewhere along the way and possibly other medical issues. If a transwoman gets to their 40s and has never had a period then they know the exact reason for this and it requires precisely zero investigation. There is a single very specific reason why no transwoman has ever had a period.
If a woman gets to her 40s and has never given birth, then it is either highly likely that she has spent most of her adult life actively avoiding getting pregnant, involving probably multiple types of contraception along the way, enduring all of the stress that comes with that OR she has spent a number of years trying unsuccessfully to get pregnant, and enduring all of the stress that comes with that. Or she has some sort of medical issue which means that she knows that will never get pregnant, and has endured the stress that comes with that. There will be a very small number of women who will never get pregnant for medical reasons and are totally happy about that fact. A transwoman has never experienced any of these things. There is a single very specific reason why no transwoman has ever given birth.
Pregnancy and periods, whether its experiencing them, lack of them, actively avoiding them, not knowing why they haven't experienced them etc are something that all women have had some kind of relative experience of.