I have a very woke friend, she has always been very outspoken on the trans issue but on social media she is surprisingly quiet at the minute, perhaps because JKR has made such brilliant points that it is difficult to argue against. So instead she has been posting a lot about BLM, trying to “educate” her white friends (she is white) about racism and recommend lots of reading. It is normal during this reading to feel defensive and uncomfortable she says. She invites us to DM her so that we can talk about these feelings. She doesn’t intend to sounds preachy and self righteous. She has then listed about 50 forms of covert white supremacy. Some of them I am aware of eg white hero complex, after the Stacey Dooley affair, (but then I wonder, is my friend not demonstrating this herself in her incessant drive to educate others about racism on behalf of people of a different race?)
I always thought not being racist was fairly straightforward- judge people by the content of the character, not the colour of their skin. But apparently this is no longer the case. I need to educate myself (I read very widely and have always read a lot of books by BAME authors, but she is recommending non fiction on the issue of race itself). I’m struggling with it to be honest. “White silence” is a covert act of white supremacy but then because there are seemingly an infinite amount of ways I can be covertly racist, no wonder people are silent because there are so many Microaggressions and covert forms of racism that to say anything at all is risky. (Eg it is racist to tell a black person they are “articulate”) But silence is violence. I just think the whole thing is authoritarian and intolerant the same way that “transwomen are women” is. And if I were to come out as GC on social media, which I have not been brave enough to do yet, then she would dismiss me as a terf and ergo because I don’t sign up to the package deal of the extreme left, I’m probably racist too.
For the record, I work at an outstanding inner city school with a high amount of BAME students. Day in and day out For the last 5 years I have built up relationships with kids of all backgrounds and led my department so that the students achieve excellent academic outcomes. I have diversified the curriculum, but I have also tried to change the curriculum to ensure it is academically challenging and gives our students the “cultural capital” that their more advantaged peers take for granted. I think this is a more meaningful demonstration of my own antiracism than posting a black square on my Instagram, but the former is me being a “white saviour” while the latter is “violence” through silence.
I think black lives matter, I understand why “all lives matter” is wrong, but at the same time, BLM as a political movement is something I cannot support - it’s aims are the end of the nuclear family, the defunding of the police and the overthrowing of capitalism. I also think the conflation of race with certain political beliefs is problematic in itself - a point Priti Patel made well I thought the other day - (although I am not a fan of hers AT ALL) but she seems to have shut down for not being the right kind of race or not having had the right experienced racism - which is surely racist in itself? I was horrified and sickened by the murder of George Floyd. I do not feel personally responsibility or guilt for it though which apparently makes me a racist monster.
I’m wondering if i should engage in a dialogue with my friend about this as she has invited this but wonder if it wouldn’t end well.
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maudavery · 16/06/2020 05:55
Good lord that tweet 
. White women really are the worst. Especially those of us who know what a woman is (clue: White women are. Black women are. Men are not. We are such bitches).
OP your friend sounds dreadful. We all must do what we think is right. I try to overcome any prejudices I might otherwise have and try to listen and be open. That’s my commitment. I don’t have original sin and I won’t be made to atone for sins that aren’t mine. We all object to the way particularly black men are treated by the police in the USA and there are concerns here about socio economic equality and we must do more. I am an employer and try to be careful in recruitment and we are mindful in how we reach new candidates for roles. I read quite widely and am consciously broadening what I read. That’s my commitment. I’m responsible for my patch and I do what I can.
I wouldn’t tolerate a friend like that. Increasingly navigating this world acceptably has little to do with increasing social justice and more to do with creating a new elite squadron who can learn the new vocabulary and who then police other less obsessive people who fail the vocab rules. That’s why there are so many pointless useless white people policing others in this movement. It’s just a new form of middle class advancement.
By the way we also had a copy of Little Black Sambo. I recall loving the story of the little boy who turned tigers into butter. The name passed me by. It had been my grandmother’s and she was born in 1901. It’s actually been rewritten in a more acceptable fashion but with the same cool story and a little brown boy as the hero as it was in the original. It’s now the Story of Little Babaji.
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Is the Event Horizon of deplorableness similar to Purgatory or Hell, because if it is the latter, then as a ginge I am out 
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