The kink that dare not speak its name

[GCGayDad]

Just spotted this while scrolling through The Guardian. Last week's problem page I think: www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2020/may/01/boyfriend-sexual-kinks-i-find-abhorrent-resolve-differences#comment-140278165

While the agony aunt and the readers' comments seem largely reasonable, anyone on this forum will spot a glaring omission in the analysis of what's going on. I wonder if either
(a) the agony aunt and others are ignorant of AGP;
(b) she and they don't think the nature of the kink is relevant;
(c) editorial pressure has excluded any mention of AGP or trans issues:
Or (d) all three.

Any thoughts, @tinselangel and others?

And another one to add to the list. Married 23 years, somehow we've managed to maintain a loving relationship without "spicing things up" with physical violence or emotional abuse. I'm getting really tired of people pretending that hurting your partner is healthy as long as you're "open and honest" about it.

I understand what you describe MightyMike is called "topping from the bottom" and is a common thing.

There is nothing wrong with being repulsed by the idea of something sexually

This.

(Should add with AGP what that's telling you about the rest of the personality is that this is a man with very deeply engrained levels of misogyny, who doesn't see women as human beings but rather as props in his sexual fantasy landscape.)

And this, times a thousand.

I find there's a lot more acceptance of the first point than the second, however. Even on FWR.

It's a dominating sexual act, but played out as if the one who has no power has all the power.

Speaking from experience: This, times infinity.

It is their fantasy, and we are required to play along. Mine never got enraged; he just had no interest in anything that didn't fit the sexual narratives he liked to play out.

I am basically being asked to abuse him.

I wish I hadn't already used "this, times infinity" because I'm now in need of an even bigger multiplier.

He can't see it that way though.