YouTuber Stauffer rehoming adoptive child.

[AuntyBess]

Absolutely horrendous story of an American family raising money via monetised you tube videos to pay for process of adopting Chinese boy, then giving him up when his needs were too much for the family.

If you've read of this story, have you noticed how many comments are directed solely towards the mother, not both parents.

Colour me shocked.

*is the intention to create a human life, for he/she to be separated

The point of adoption, though, is for a child that needs a home to find a home, not for adults to use adoption to fulfil their "right" to be parents.
We are adoptive parents (did I say that above?) and yes we wanted to be parents but we knew our children needed homes (and in one case, there had been a match before we expressed interest that had fallen through - fortunately our DS was a baby and had no idea this was going on).
Telling hopeful parents that adoption is "there for them" is telling them that babies are in existence to complete them. No child should have to do that.

Ok I see your point, I didn't understand that was what you meant but I get it now and can understand your perspective.

I agree that this language or phrasing again makes it about the adults desires or 'needs' being placed above the child's needs.

Both surrogacy and adoption have been presented as an 'option' that is 'available' to couples with fertility issues or same-sex couples. It's always spoken about as fulfilling a hole in their lives and putting it like this doesn't centre the child. It's vile.

Huxley is not missing but it's clear that the Stauffer's 'rehomed' him without the adoption in place and it's not clear what was done in terms of background checks before he moved out...and what Myka says here, hmmm, I don't think Myka would 'rehome' her biological child but seek all the support that was needed...

'Multiple scary things happened inside the home towards our other children, and if these events happened with one of my biological kids, after all the help and after the behaviors we witnessed sadly we would have no other choice then to seek help and get their needs met.'

www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-8385725/Ohio-sheriffs-office-says-adopted-son-YouTube-star-Myka-Stauffer-not-missing.html

@drspouse

The point of adoption, though, is for a child that needs a home to find a home, not for adults to use adoption to fulfil their "right" to be parents. We are adoptive parents (did I say that above?) and yes we wanted to be parents but we knew our children needed homes (and in one case, there had been a match before we expressed interest that had fallen through - fortunately our DS was a baby and had no idea this was going on). Telling hopeful parents that adoption is "there for them" is telling them that babies are in existence to complete them. No child should have to do that.

When XH and I were going through infertility, the number of people who thought we should 'just' adopt is shocking. It was always clear to me that it's about finding parents for a child, not the other way round. We didn't go through the process in the end.

This Social Worker in the US looks at the Stauffer family and dissects it. She's angry and I get why.