Utterly heartbreaking thread by Rachel Moran

[NeurotrashWarrior]

I can't read it all. to all.

Women, in order to deliver a necessary wake up call, I’m asking you to respond to this tweet with simply your age the first time you were sexually objectified/leered at/spoken to inappropriately or sexually assaulted by a grown man. Just your age please. I’ll start: 9

https://twitter.com/rachelrmoran/status/1245842180507340801?s=21

5? it’s my first memory of wearing a dress. i was in a field beside my house watching birds nesting. an adult neighbour asked me if i liked birds as he had a whole aviary. (didn’t use that word). When i was in there he grabbed me from behind & forced his fist inside me. i just froze,, i remember the pain to this day., he put my hand on erect penis & ejaculated. he told me then to go home now.

7, was sexually assaulted by a boy in my class.

10, a creepy man at a wedding commented on my 'tits'.

11 onwards men staring at my breasts and making lewd comments.

15, was groomed online by a man ten years older, involving sexual chats etc.

Sexually assaulted by various men/partners since then.

6 I'm my garden a local boy got me to put my hand down his pants my mum screamed at him out of the window it was never mentioned again

8 or 9 the neighbour used to play football on the back field with us all and used to like to play tickling with the girls 🤔.

12 an elderly man shouted from his door that he needed help as I was walking home from school he took me inside and tried to get under my top - I ran off and told my dad who rang the police and they went and had a word with him.

14- my uncle groped my boobs while sat next to me at my Grandmas house and she was oblivious watching TV. I've never told anyone about that but can still remember the top I was wearing :(.

I was brought up to believe that any attention from a man is a good thing and all women (girls) should aspire to be pleasing to the eye and sexually attractive to males. My step mother shouldn’t let me wear leggings as apparently my bum looked too big. This from ten years of age and so skinny that many officials would enquire about anorexia. My dad and step mother would make allusions to the fact that women deserved being cheated on if they were fat or had lost their looks.

At 14 a 21 year old guy who I was snogging (my first kiss) made me touch his penis. He knew my age and knew I didn’t want to. Parents and family friends thought this was acceptable when it came to light.

Next stepmother used to say I couldn’t wear certain clothes as it would be my own fault if men raped me. She also used to speak sexually to my boyfriend when I was 16...ask him if he wanted an experienced women etc.

When I told them my boss (mid 50’s male) was cornering me and pressing his penis up against me on a regular basis, they told me not to be hysterical.

I was taught that being cat called and whistled at was a desirable thing from being about 11.

5 or 6. Our school toilets were a portacabin outside. I had gone to them during class and a workman pushed into the cubicle (not sure if I'd not locked it or there was no lock) and made me touch his penis. Nearly 50 years later and I can still remember the knickers I was wearing because I stared at them the whole time.

My daughter is almost 13 and I feel sick to my stomach at all these responses and what her response may one day be.
to everyone

How sad to read.

I've never been sexually assaulted myself, thank God.

I was seven or eight and was walking to the local shop. There were two or three middle-aged men sitting on the wall - I suppose the kind we called "corner boys" at the time - not quite down-and-outs but probably waiting for the pub to reopen - and they shouted "Hey blondie!" as I walked by and made slurping noises. I was really uncomfortable and if I saw them after that, I'd cross the (dangerous) road and go the long way round to avoid them.

I was sexually assaulted at 13 by a stranger.

This thread is making my blood run cold.

I was 12, lived rurally and approached by a man in his thirties, on a walking route between villagers, who was pleasuring himself. He asked if I could help him with it.

I ran until I made it to the local pub and called my mum. She was great as it had happened to her. But my dad (who was policeman) said there was nothing he could do.

I did see him again on a bus a few months later. He got off not far from my home.

I was 12 when a boy followed me as I walked home and separated from my friends. He was around 16. At first he just spoke to me but then he forced me against a wall and kissed and groped me. I just froze.

A man also tried to drag me into his car when I was in my mid 20's, walking home after a night out. He ran back to his car and drove off when 2 other cars were racing along the road and I hid in a bush while he drove up and down the road looking for me.

This thread is so, so sad.

I can’t specifically remember the first time. I feel like my life, up until I met my husband at age 28, was constantly interrupted with unwanted sexual attention.
Cat calling
Groping
Lewd remarks by teachers about my breasts
Grooming by a much older adult male at age 15
Rape
Coerced into sexual contact as an adult

I thought this was normal. I know others haven’t had this experience but to me, this happened to everyone. I have deep rooted issues which, thankfully, my husband understands & helps with. I need to protect my children from this behaviour.

This is horrible 💔 love to you all

I can make a long list, starting at aged 8 and expanding well into my 20s.

I just want to say, as a caution, be very careful how much detail you post. There are a lot of sick people who may be reading.

Can't post on Twitter as it will out me but

7 (adult cousin)
13 my stepdad.

I'm okay except that I can't have a sexual relationship. Forced myself in order to get my DS.

7 or 8 answered the phone and some prank caller asked me if I had hairs on my c**t.

I also had a school friend who lived in a children's home and I distinctly remember her telling me about one of the older boys doing something which I later realised was him masturbating in her presence. She was around 9/10 at the time.

About 5. The headmaster at my school used to ask teachers to send any children in infants who had done good work up to his office at 11am. No one ever wanted to be first in the line, because he would pretend that we'd been sent there for being naughty and the first child in line, regardless of sex, would be put over his knee and skirt pulled up/trousers pulled down and then he'd pretend to spank them. This was 1979/1980.

Me about 10, an old man in the park commenting on my body and trying to get me and my friends to go to his house.

My daughter was under 5 and it was her birth dad and probably several of his friends.

1. My Uncle. Classic "our secret" scenario, playing with my genitalia and him masturbating. The first person I confided in was a girl at school when I was 11and it turns out her Dad was forcing her to give him oral sex most evenings so I convinced myself that it was "normal", or not as bad.

I eventually broke down at school aged 13, but my Mum came to all the police interviews with me and I felt I couldn't be honest. It was also made very clear to me that because he was quite high up in the a Navy it would do a lot of damage. Not nearly as much damage as it has done to me but there you go. I'm in my 40's now and after decades of running from it I'm finally dealing with it. I still struggle to see that innocent little girl as me, I cry for her but still find it hard to connect with her. for all of you

1. A French Medicins Sans Frontier doctor working in a developing country I grew up in, who my parents housed. He abused my sister and I as my parents put him in our bedroom.

Can't think about it without feeling nauseous.

11. He lured me into his car.

I genuinely think this is awful how young most people were. Truly horrendous.

I would add that I was 6 and was stood next to my brothers at a family gathering. Told to drop our trousers in front of three of my five aunts and a discussion about our penis’s ensued. Obviously male but think it’s important to note it can happen to anyone!

9 for both me and my husband .

7 and living in foster care when the oldest son of the fostering family began sexually abusing me.
10 in 1956 when I told my mum what my step father was doing to me and he was arrested. Prosecutors said they "declined to pursue for the sake of the child".