I find the (armchair) psychology of this politics hard not to be a bit shocked by because it seems so not self aware and seems so lacking in solidarity because it lacks the interest in biological reality and now that’s used against women.
This kind of politics seems to be very keen to see men (however they identify their gender) as individuals who are allowed to be flawed and should be shielded by others (while being allowed to wield power without responsibility). Men should always be given the benefit of the doubt, given lots of time and support by women. Other men aren't asked to do this for each other though.
Whereas, this politics seems quick to lump all women in with each other as an indistinguishable mass. It’s quick to condemn women if they don’t perform their allotted role appropriately. So for example, women must always be the ones offering support to others.
This politics does not seem to genuinely individualise women even when considering them as a singular people, but especially when women are in a group. It does not want to give time to women’s concerns at all or seek to understand them because they should be in a support role. otherwise they are useless and possibly dangerous because women are not allowed to have needs.
The black and white thinking into good and bad camps of course works well for some women in this system. It enables them to escape and ‘be individuals’ if they perform the right politics or happen to inhabit the right characteristics. But the price of that escape seems to be a Sisyphean task of constantly demonstrating the right politics which must be exhausting.
And there isn’t much real structural change to be had in this model for anyone because it’s all about changing language and performance of the right things but doesn’t seem to be actually doing much about the hard, boring, unsexy, complex to resolve stuff. (Particularly when it affects women) Like issues of childcare and elderly care and maternity and pension and employment rights and whatever else.
Also, escape into individuality seems to be precarious for women, they can always be accused of thoughtcrime (from which there is no way of proving innocence) or be accused of not having the right characteristics/saying the right thing/having too much relative privilege or whatever. It looks like a grim, reductive environment in which thriving is hard unless you’re also pointing the finger at someone else.
I find it worrying that this politics has got so many institutions captured, which the institutions need to urgently get everyone out of, because always it seems just like its predecessors, this ‘progressive’ political hierarchy always reverts to shoving the majority of women down to the bottom of every pile it creates.