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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Mother's Day - Poem for a Daughter

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truthisarevolutionaryact · 22/03/2020 08:04

On this strange and rather bittersweet day, thought I'd share this poem by Ann Stevenson:

'I think I'm going to have it,'
I said, joking between pains.
The midwife rolled competent
sleeves over corpulent milky arms.
'Dear, you never have it,
we deliver it.'
A judgement the years proved true.
Certainly I've never had you

as you still have me, Caroline.
Why does a mother need a daughter?
Heart's needle, hostage to fortune,
freedom's end. Yet nothing's more perfect
than that bleating, razor-shaped cry
that delivers a mother to her baby.
The bloodcord snaps that held
their sphere together. The child,
tiny and alone, creates the mother.

A woman's life is her own
until it is taken away
by a first, particular cry.
Then she is not alone
but a part of the premises
of everything there is:
a time, a tribe, a war.
When we belong to the world
we become what we are.

Flowers
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BraveGoldie · 22/03/2020 08:05

That is beautiful and poignant - thank you!

redcarbluecar · 22/03/2020 08:08

That’s lovely.

middleager · 22/03/2020 10:01

Made me well up. Missing my mother today but at least I can call her Flowers

OhamIreally · 22/03/2020 10:13

Thank you that's beautiful. The child makes the mother indeed.

Bluebell246 · 22/03/2020 10:38

That's beautiful. Thanks for posting.

ScrimpshawTheSecond · 22/03/2020 15:43

Beautiful. Thanks for posting.

Bezalelle · 22/03/2020 16:10

I actually think that's really odd and twee. But I see I'm in the minority!

Binterested · 22/03/2020 16:54

This is my favourite mothers and daughters poem. For all on Mothers Day.

All The Things You Are Not Yet by Helen Dunmore
for tess

Tonight there's a crowd in my head:
all the things you are not yet.
You are words without paper, pages
sighing in summer forests, gardens
where builders stub out their rubble
and plastic oozes its sweat.
All the things you are, you are not yet.

Not yet the lonely window in midwinter
with the whine of tea on an empty stomach,
not yet the heating you can't afford and must wait for,
tamping a coin in on each hour.
Not the gorgeous shush of restaurant doors
and their interiors, always so much smaller.
Not the smell of the newsprint, the blur
on your fingertips — your fame. Not yet

the love you will have for Winter Pearmains
and Chanel No 5 — and then your being unable
to buy both washing-machine and computer
when your baby's due to be born,
and my voice saying, "I'll get you one"
and you frowning, frowning
at walls and surfaces which are not mine —
all this, not yet. Give me your hand,

that small one without a mark of work on it,
the one that's strange to the washing-up bowl
and doesn't know Fairy Liquid for whiskey.
Not yet the moment of your arrival in taxis
at daring destinations, or your being alone at stations
with the skirts of your fashionable clothes flapping
and no money for the telephone.

Not yet the moment when I can give you nothing
so well-folded it fits in an envelope —
a dull letter you won't reread.
Not yet the moment of your assimilation
in that river flowing westward: rivers of clothes,
of dreams, an accent unlike my own
saying to someone I don't know: darling.

belleprof · 23/03/2020 06:18

Loving both those poems this morning. Thanks binterested and truth.

redcarbluecar · 23/03/2020 09:01

Another lovely mother/daughter poem is ‘Before You Were Mine’ by Carol Ann Duffy.

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