Perhaps I'm alone in this, but when I consider my vagina, it's relevance to my life is much greater in terms of what comes out of it; people I created, the lining of my uterus, cervical mucus secreted to keep it healthy and functional. Than what goes into it; someone else's penis.
I don't view my body in terms of what other people (men) can do to it.
As for my clitoris, it's 10cm long. It wraps around my vagina internally towards my thighs. It has the shape of a lotus flower. It has more than 8000 nerve endings in the tiny tip alone, the glans. It keeps growing as I age.
I can see how those who are extremely ignorant of female anatomy and function might think vagina=penetrable hole, clitoris = pea sized nubbin that cannot penetrate. It's embarrassingly ignorant but there you go. However, females don't often define themselves in terms of dick functionality and how our bodies relate to that, but rather our own organ's functionality.
As for cosmetic appearance, if you ignore all the actual functions of female organs to contrive to believe that external cosmetic similarity makes for common purpose, you might as well argue that sheep without legs are clouds, and flies without wings are raisins.
And so far as hormonal levels go, a point I've been wanting to make for ages to all the middle aged men arguing for their "HRT" and claiming their oestrogen levels make them women.
What the everloving feck do you imagine the oestrogen levels of post menopausal women are? That's right, dipsticks, we spend decades and decades of our lives with low or undetectable levels of oestrogen and we're as female without it as we are with it! Why on earth would a man imagine he needs oestrogen at 65 at the levels of a 20 year old woman? The level of oestrogen naturally occurring in a 65 year old woman is often less than a man's.
It's quite the shock to discover what men really think female bodies are for, what they look like, and what they do.