Domestic Abuse Charge and bail conditions

[staycalmandparent]

Hi,
I really need some advice. I am currently in a horrible situation with my ex partner who has been charged with domsetic abuse after we separated as he would not accept that the relationship was toxic and had to end. my Son has autism and he was not understanding of his condition so i called it a day and he began sending me abusive emails, voicemails, following me to work, the school gates etc and after he began to message my parents I went to the police who charged him and imposed no contact bail conditions.
After a few weeks he messaged me via a fake account and said that he was sorry and that his Grandmother had had a stroke, i ignored him initially but felt bad about his Gran so i messaged to say i hoped she would be ok but to leave me alone. He then began saying I was going to be slaughtered as a witness in court and he has said that intimate details will be called out in court and that i will be in trouble as i have answered him when he is on bail and I am already being called a Police Grass by his friends. my messages were mostly to tell him to stop.
I don't want to report the breach as going to the Police but i feel to protect myself i should but will I be in trouble for responding?
I know I have been stupid but any advice would be really gratefully received as i am back where i started with my naivety.
Thanks
Maria

Please don't worry it's him with bail restrictions not you. Do contact police and report it or he will carry on. He's running scared now and knows he's going to be prosecuted so he's trying to scare you into dropping charges most likely. Nothing bar the facts of your case will come out in court. The police will put your mind at ease x

You've done nothing wrong OP. Please let the police know that the harassment is continuing, that you are being threatened, and that you are frightened. It will all help the court understand what an abusive low life he is. Good luck.

Thank you. he has asked me to change my statement and get the charges dropped but in Scotland that can't be done as it is not my choice to charge, it's the CPS who take the decision if they feel there is a case to answer.

I don't want to report the breach as going to the Police

You already extended him a courtesy by responding sympathetically, he threw that in your face, personally, I see no reason to extend him another by staying quiet. Regarding getting in trouble, he initiated contact, not you and your behaviour towards him was in no way objectionable.

If it helps, think of the other people you're protecting by making the authorities aware of his continued transgressions.

You won’t be in trouble. He’s manipulated the situation to re-establish contact. It will be seen as exactly what it is x

As someone who failed to report the first breaches (didn't want to get him in more trouble etc) and then felt I couldn't after, please report the breach now. Men like these need boundaries - you've been given the chance to get the boundary in, but to keep it there every breach needs reporting.

Thank you all for your advice, it has helped a lot on what I should do.

refusetobeasheep - did you have to make a statement and provide evidence when you reported it or did you just go into the station, tell them and leave?

Thanks

@staycalmandparent
I'm currently in a similar position to you with an ex that broke bail by making contact and I didn't report him for it.
Can I ask you what you decided to do and what the outcome was?
I'm terrified it's going to reflect badly on me in court because I replied to him and even met up with him to chat (it ended with him sending me abusive texts and threating to kill my current partner)
Also, 3 months have passed since it happened so I feel awkward complaining now.