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"Janet from Ilkley" . . .
. . . you slipped up here, Janet:
"I miss her, as a lesbian, more than some of my other partners, who were girls . . . " (Janet's emphasis)
Also . . . I thought "pansexual" was the bi-sexual banisher? Layla Moran, on taking a girlfriend after having only boyfriends, "comes out" as "pansexual" - rather than bisexual. Yet "Janet from Ilkley" sticks with being a boring old lesbian, rather than going for bisexual or pansexual.
I guess it all depends on the political point being made - either way, bisexuality is dumped in the dust.
The rest of Janet's spiel . . . I can actually buy that some women might be so bewildered that they go with the "false eyelashes = woman" equation . . . but . . . a lesbian? A lesbian who also claims, when asked what her lesbian mates think about the relationship, that she "only hangs out with gay men".
I am not a lesbian but I have some good friends who are, and some women friends who are bisexual. I don't know anyone who is a lesbian or a bisexual woman who "only hangs out with gay men".
Janet from Ilkley might be on the level but . . . her sangfroid about "engaging with" penis (as she put it) surely disqualifies her from claiming that her sexual orientation is that of a homosexual woman?
There is too much that does not add up for me to be able to think of her as actually being a lesbian, ie. demonstrating that she is eligible for protection under the Equality Act 2010 as having the sexual orientation of a lesbian. Maybe bi-sexual - but not lesbian.
She can call herself whatever she likes, of course. Maybe it is all true and she does consider herself to be lesbian, ie. "identifies as" a lesbian.