Lampooned for not using "correct" pronouns

[VinegarTitz]

I signed up today for a bit of advice after reading this site since pregnant with my first child a few years ago.

As is my normal writing style, I used non gendered pronouns to refer to my other half and me.

I was expecting some robust responses but I was a little surprised that instead of commenting on the issue I raised, I got a load of grief about not immediately identifying myself as a woman and my husband as a man even though, having read the OP back, I think it's pretty clear.

What's the dealio? I understood that MN was supposed to be supportive, not discouraging and obnoxious towards women!

I feel that I was being vilified because I'm a woman wanting sex with my husband either while pregnant or after childbirth

Can you not see that your issue is one in which biology matters?

If a woman who's post-partum wants sex, that's one thing, but if it's her male partner who's desperate for a shag and she's saying no because she's recently given birth, that's quite another.

Obviously in this situation, it absolutely matters which is the female and which is the male - there's no way of determining who (if anyone) IBU without knowing that.

Bewilderness: Women are not just expected to be nice whilst fighting for our rights, we're expected to be nice instead of fighting for our rights

The whole story in a nutshell

What on earth has this ^^ got to do with what the OP is saying in either of her threads?

I thought the OP got a really hard time on the other one and not much better here.

I have to admire the hypocrisy in all the the threads debunking "lady brain" but then vehemently insisting that "oh that isn't how a woman would write".

It was obvious to me the OP was female.

It was obvious to me the OP was female

I think it was obvious to a lot of people on the thread